i need some advice..
hello i am new to this app (my friend said to try it out, and i already love it) but i need some.. advice on friendships.
i dont know if i should leave them, or stay. there are 4 people i been online friends for a while, and everything was fine. then there was some drama between one of them and their girlfriend, which caused them to blurt it out to my other 3 friends, and it hasnt been the same since. this also happened before the drama too, but its been happening frequently..
they havent been messaging me, playing with me, talk to me, let alone say hi to me. they only come when they want me, or when i join them, and its makes me feel like i am just a floater friend. a friend whos just there. i just want to feel like i belong somewhere.. even in real life (before school ended) i was feeling the same way, where i couldnt belong with my friend group except a few..
again.. i dont know if i should leave them or not. i have abandonment and attachment issues, so its harder for me. and im also a people pleaser. they are also the longest online -best- friends i had ever, and who made me feel like i belonged. but now, im not sure if they really want me there, or if theyre just using me and my kindness.
@breadifiedbread
As a former people pleaser and someone who tried hard to fit in the moment you see they contact you when they Need you... they take your kindness but other time you feel invisible. It is the universe telling you it is time to move on. Interacting and meeting new people can add to our lives and sometimes show us new things or ways of seeing them etc. Yet so many of us try to hold on to our best friend from the past.
i reached out a couple years ago to a person who really was my best friend at a pivotal time in my life. this person told me they were not sure meeting up would be ok since we are different people now it was painful at first but i realized they were right we have out grown each other... that can happen with friends. I hope you find what works and not stick with something because it was good in past but not so much now.
