I need friends!😭
My name is Zoe and I'm turning 16 in October. I've never thought about making a post like this cuz it just felt needy but I'm trying to open up a little bit and stop being avoidance of stuff most people would think I'm crazy for wanting friends since I live in a boarding house and there's so many people here but the thing is there is a lot of people but there is not the right people everyone here is just toxic in the old they do is gossip about each other which isn't really good especially for someone who has anxiety like me at school I don't really have friends but I have people who I just sit with at lunch and I'm always feeling left out. I'm in grade 10 and I live in South Africa my interests are history politics fashion gaming and all the stuff about pop culture. I like sports especially tennis soccer and formula 1 I don't have any hobbies but if I was rich enough I probably playing tennis. So that's all about me and I really hope this post finds the right people.🙃
@windysummers29
HI there. Thank you for sharing. You sound a lovely, interesting person.
And also self aware about what you want and how you feel about it. I think this is a great starting point for achieving your goals. I find that there's quite a lot of culture around at the moment about being independent and self reliant. And thus that being dependent or seeking social support is somehow shameful.
Which is kinda odd, when you remember we are a social species who often need the support of others. It's OK to want to have the support of friends.
What does friendship mean to you? What does it look like? You describe what you don't want, the gossiping and back biting. What would an ideal friendship be for you?
Even if it's not a friendship where we're always doing stuff or always have things to say, as long as there's support for eachother and we trust each other enough to be comfortable sharing without feeling judged. Even if they're shy or avodant, just anything as long as they're there for me to cry on and it's not one sided. I hope that's not too specific.🙃
@windysummers29
Its beautifully specific!
I got a lovely picture of a calm, safe, balanced relationship, based on trust, comfortable sharing and listening without judgement.
My shoulder is available if you need a cry.
Hi I'm a listener here.
If you want, you can message me and we can talk privately.
I didn't know you could message a person privately here.
Hi Zoe! Your post resonated with me so much. I'm turning 17 in Decemberand also live in South Africa. I completely get what you mean about being surrounded by people but still feeling entirely alone and dealing with anxiety. I love reading and listening to ASMR to calm my mind down. I'd love to text and chat more if you're open to it!
