I need opinions and possibly resources
Hey guys! My neighbor use to be my best friend and she got into drugs and she started dating the “dealer” Well he moved in and her and I are no longer friends because of him. My bedroom window is right at her back yard and I hear him yelling at her taking a piece of her souls. Yelling to the point neighbors stopped calling the cops. She always makes excuses for him. Well she now is being beat by him. Choking her with rope, dragging her by her hair, punching, slapping extra…… I don’t know how to help her. But the cops never have done anything at all. Not even questioning her away from him. I am bipolar with severe anger issues and I am not doing well with it now. I don’t know what to do. It’s so hard sitting here listening to it. To the point I a scared I may not be able to control myself at some point and I don’t know what I’m capable of doing anymore. Her and I do not speak so I can’t get her away from him. He will not allow that at all. Help me guys. Who can I email, call, text to help her. I know she wants help. She’s shown me signs to help her. He will not leave when she says.
@QueenBee5
The police cannot do things based on neighbors hear yelling or even assume physical abuse ..... if she is unwilling to press charges or tell them what is going on.... She does need help because this is a dangerous situation but even if you managed to get her away from him......... if or when she goes back to him ........the blame hate and anger will be focused on you then.
She has to be the one to make the move ......call for help...... leave ..... or whatever. there is no rescue if she is not willing or ready to press charges or leave forever....
if this is her home and he moved in ...............she should be able to have him trespassed and get a restraining order etc....she has out herself in a very dangerous position if he is dealing out of her home she could be caught up in charges as well.
you can offer moral support and if possible encourage her but in the end until she is ready to follow through nothing will happen.
She has allowed me to put one of my home cameras pointed into her back yard and I see what he is doing and I even record it all. The cops say if they don’t see it in person as it is happening there is nothing they can do. It makes me furious. The cops have been there many time cause of this and she is scared for her life and is afraid he will get out and kill her and hurt me and my children. Idk what to do
@QueenBee5
Did they specifically say they could not do anything if you have video? if they did can you call the district attorneys office to verify if video can be used as evidence..... ?
if he is gone somewhere in jail or whatever she should move if possible.......... or get in touch with groups / advocates for domestic violence..... as they would have area specific information.
honestly as i said police see often and the victim needs to follow thru many people have been arrested / charged and yet the victim lets them come right back....
That's a dangerous situation, especially for her. She probably wasn't expecting it to escalate to this. She needs help as soon as possible! She's scared and doesn't know who to turn to for help and probably afraid to even reach out for help.
If I were you, I'd get enough footage on the camera and send that in for evidence! There ls your proof! I really wish the best outcome for her!
