Limerence and a predicament
I had talked about it in another thread I made, but I caught limerence for someone I just met. Things seem to be going well, and I think they're a cool person, but I feel the best course of action may just be to cut them off early in the friendship so no one gets hurt
The thing that complicates it is that we're part of a thing called DSA in our area, and I carpool with them to stuff for that little local organization
So my predicament is that I wanted to join this DSA thing to help my community and meet people, but I also have limerence for this person, and may have to cut them off, or mess up the early bits of a friendship that seem to be going well
So again, I'm choosing between what's good for me, and what's good for me, and I feel paralyzed. I don't wanna cause myself pain and isolate myself further, but I don't wanna hurt this person's feelings
And all of this is just because my brain decided it wanted to have dumb feelings I don't want for someone
@calmLunch9427
I'm sorry you feel this way.
And it sounds difficult.
But if you are carpooling and enjoying this, why ruin it for yourself.
You don't deserve to be without friends.
Or constantly sabotaging yourself 💛
I'm just worried that I'm going to hurt this person and/or hurt myself
But I'm looking into therapy, so maybe I can get proper input from a therapist, and they could help me maybe try to cope with it
It's just that these emotions really hurt, and I don't wanna cause anyone, including myself, damage
@calmLunch9427
I understand that completely 💛 A therapist might have some insights into the best way of navigating this, so you or anyone else won't get hurt 💙
I just hope I can get into contact with one soon, I don't want to make any bad decisions, but I think I'm going to try and distance myself from this person a bit until I can get some proper help. I won't be avoidant, but I need to be responsible with the way I interact with them
@calmLunch9427
I admire your kindness and self awareness 💙
