Problem! :/
Hi everyone I have a problem and I really need help. My problem is that I have a friend who is very jealous of me and in an unusual way. She always hurts me with her words and speaks about me in a bad way from behind my back and makes others hate me. I knew this because of my sister. Her friend told her that my friend Lala (not a real name) spoke bad about me with her brother ( her brother is in the same class as me)
Lala told him bad things about me that aren't true and that I am stealing her friend which isn't true at all. She was my friend first and then Lala came and tried to ruin things between us. She always excludes me from friend groups, for example when we stand together Lala always stands in front of me so that I’m out of the circle. She just wants our friend only for herself. She also used to hurt me physically when I joke around with her (I don't hurt her) and then she hits me as if she was joking too but you couldn't tell that it wasn't a joke because it hurts. When I approached her about it via chat, she sent me voice messages where she screamed and wanted directly to start a fight even though I only asked her normally to stop because it bothers me. Then she finally stopped doing it. In front of me, she is trying to be kind, but her jealousy is overwhelming and you can easy tell that she hates me because I am better than her in everything and more beautiful than her. I don't want to be friends with her anymore but I don't know how because she is in the same class as me and she is also friends with my friend (we are a trio). I talked with our friend about Lala and she told me that she also doesn't like the way Lala behaves because Lala tries to pull her down in front of others so that she presents herself better. I really don't know what to do in this situation and I would appreciate it if you could help and give your opinion.
@louuuu000 First of all, don't let this kind of person affect your mood, a person who is not worth dealing with can not treat her as a friend, so don't wronged yourself don't go back and forth with her, don't let others consume themselves, even if she is a friend of a good friend is the same, just do your own good, don't let her have the opportunity to hurt you is your victory. Slowly she will feel bored and leave you.
@louuuu000
This person is NOT a friend...... period.
we should have another word for people who may be connected to a friend group but is NOT our friend.
People who talk down on others to elevate themselves are really sad and hollow.... people do not like them they PRETEND so they are not the subject of this persons next gossip.
As for making others not like you etc ... that is not possible, IF a person changes their friendship with you based on unverified BS they also are not your friends. friends if hearing this should speak up/ correct BS and if not walk away from the speaker.... I think in so many cases people think if ONLY they can appease this person and be "friends" their mean behavior will stop ... it won't you are only giving them a sense of power in using bad mouthing against people ........ignore her ... pretend you do not even know her.
if it makes you feel better say something like "it is sad and so immature when they only way a person elevates themselves is tearing down others .. shows their real character" it is a learning moment that those who listened need to evaluate what is being told to them and she has to know others will see the real her too.