Question
Would it be wrong to directly block someone who doesn't accept your boundaries even if they're your best friend and they suffer from abandonment issues? Should I leave them a message explaining it and block them? I need advice. I just want to run away, they've done horrible things to my mental health.
@ricebun
It’s not wrong to protect yourself. It never is. Even if the person hurting you is someone you once considered close… even if they have their own pain and struggles.
You are not responsible for someone else’s healing if they continuously damage yours. You’ve tried setting boundaries that’s already an act of care and compassion. But if they refuse to respect those limits and continue to harm your mental health, then walking away is not cruel. It’s necessary.
It’s okay to grieve this. It’s okay to feel conflicted. It’s okay to love someone and still choose to let them go. If you feel it would bring you peace, you can leave a message one that’s gentle but firm. But you don’t owe anyone your pain just to make them feel a little less abandoned. You owe yourself safety, healing, and space to breathe.
You are allowed to choose yourself. That doesn’t make you heartless it makes you brave. And even if it hurts now, you’re taking a step toward a version of your life that isn’t weighed down by constant hurt.
You’re not alone in this, and you’re doing the right thing. You’re strong for even making this choice.
Yes, explain yourself completely in the last message and block. There is nothing wrong in this.