What should I do?
Hey guys, for some context, I had a friend ( let's call her cupcake) and so cupcake and I were best friends and by bestftiends, I don't mean thay we were j Close. I trusted that girl with all my heart and sometimes told her things I've never told anyone else. I truly loved and valued her company because she was there for me when I was at my lowest. However there's thi girl I don't like because she hurt me and me and cupcake have talked about this girl multiple times so she knew how much I didn't like her. But all of a sudden cupcake started getting close to her and all the other people i didn't like. She started putting her on the same level as me saying we were both her bsfs. Soon enough she started avoiding me and called me obsessive when i tried to advise her or talk to her about something. So I started distancing myself too even tho I truly do miss her. Her birthday is coming up soon. I have to wish her but Idk if I should wish her by posting a spam of the countless of pictures we took together or just to keep it simple and as a happy birthday because we aren't as close anymore. She WAS my bsf the girl I trusted the most at one point. But I just feel so frustrated and annoyed with her for the things she did. I would post spam pics of us but recently i learned she didnt miss me like i missed her, i heard her talk shi about me. What should i do?
@Sourpatch123
Just a simple happy birthday that show you remembered is fine. I know when we meet someone and it is great we do not want them to find other friends.
I had a similar thing but instead of back away and being mad or upset i told myself ....
"This person was my best friend and if she sees something in this person or people I do not maybe i should give them the benefit of the doubt." I met up as a group and found one or two that i misjudged by association and they were really cool people. I would have missed what turned out to be a better longer lasting friend in the process.... It is not a guarantee same would happen to you but maybe why do you dislike these other people?
I understand what you mean but I am just frustrated because I don't like those people because they've hurt me before and never bothered to apologize. And I told her abt it before because I didn't want her to get hurt like I did, but she chose them anyways. But like you said I backed away because she's the type of person that won't listen until she experiences it herself.
@Sourpatch123
I get it some people have to experience being treated badly because they do not learn from our example
Where their any signs before or was it out of the blue like that? What did the other girl do to hurt you
Nonetheless I truly wish you well losing, a best friend in that manner is really hard and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
