cry from the heart
I'm 18 years old. I'm a girl.
All my life I did not manage to make girl friends, about friends of guys I will not say anything...then I moved then they left...and all communication went to naught, although I always took the initiative to communicate further...... but they do not ... and it's weird.
For some reason more than for 3 years I have no one lingers in my friends (usually not more than a year).
And I sincerely do not understand why.....
I tried to find out, but all tell me that I am good and inprinciple comfortable, but from why we are not friends with these people is unclear.
In life in the first meetings I am modest very, even in correspondence at first too, but then quickly get used to it and I become comfortable.
I am a little sociophobic, but not very much, especially if I am with someone I know, then sociophobia disappears a little).
It seems to me that I am a comfortable and reliable friend, but why I can't find good friends is not clear.
I very much like to support, very much like to help (if I am somehow shy in the sense that they can not share something or ask for help I can even get upset, because I really like to give out my help very much, sometimes I even help passers-by).
I can also calmly maintain a conversation on many topics, can come up with different ideas for different cases.
I like to keep secrets, because I realise that it is very expensive to make a person trust you.
If to speak about guys, with them at all never befriended, because all at acquaintance at once give to understand that they are interested in my body well and that they would like that I with them slept with.... naturally I at once stop to communicate with them, because I have other values and priorities.
But at the same time there was one serious relationship (we only walked for hands, hugged and everything, but for me it was enough, I was very much in love), in which I was abandoned and cheated on me. Trepalo me signitno, about 2 years could not come back, but now I came back and fully ready for a new one, but I do not want some for the sake of a tick, to be, I want a serious relationship, that forever.
I do not look down on people, I do not care where you live, how much you earn and whether you are beautiful.
It is important to me what a man himself is like, what his goals are, whether a man is tidy, what he aspires to.....
I would be glad to communicate with someone, to be friends... meet...
Please write, if you have any response to this cry of the soul.
@appollinnarri hello! 👋
Howdy, kindred.
We're hopeless romantics. And that concept extends to more than just the actual romantic relationships. Do you constantly wish the world were better? That people were better? You've said your friends never seem to stick around... maybe we just wish things could stop changing so quickly...
Hey… I read your post and it felt like someone had taken thoughts from my own mind and heart and put them into words. The honesty, the loneliness, the craving for something real I’ve felt it all too. And I didn’t just relate, I respected it. I’d genuinely like to get to know you.. not to pass time, not to fill silence, but because something about what you said made me feel understood. No pressure, no expectations. Just one real human reaching out to another, hoping maybe there’s a quiet connection here worth exploring.
Hey… I read your post and it felt like someone had taken thoughts from my own mind and heart and put them into words. The honesty, the loneliness, the craving for something real I’ve felt it all too. And I didn’t just relate, I respected it. I’d genuinely like to get to know you.. not to pass time, not to fill silence, but because something about what you said made me feel understood. No pressure, no expectations. Just one real human reaching out to another, hoping maybe there’s a quiet connection here worth exploring.
@appollinnarri
I’m new and excited to be here because people seem so open and honest! As I grow, I trust myself more and more. When I used to think it was always a problem with me, I can see how it can be a problem with the other person and their self-centeredness. Mostly though, we just grew apart and there’s no blame either way. What has helped is giving myself the chance to explore my interests—but also not get too invested. I used to love to write but it took me a very long time to realize it wasn’t for me (in the sense of seeing myself as a “writer”). So, now I appreciate its place in my life and I continue searching.
In addition to your interest in finding friends, what other interests do you have?
@appollinnarri Hey I'm Josh and I'm 25.
I went through your story and I found it really heart touching. I am mostly lonely try hard to make friends but find it difficult to maintain friendship for long. I read a lot of philosophy books but still lacked the feeling of belonging or talking or chatting endlessly with someone.
I am open to connect with people and hear their lifestories. I feel it human that way.