If you feel you need advice, who or what do you turn to?
As the question says, I'm curious what you guys do when you feel like you need some advice.
@EdwardLee
I turn to my family or my friends mostly!
I don't open up easily so it has to be someone with whom I have alot of trust!
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Thanks for you answer. It means a lot to me!
@EdwardLee
A pleasure 💜💕
@EdwardLee
I have never felt the need for advice, because no one truly understands your situation and feelings, so no one can help you except yourself.
Good question.
You got a point there. It's kinda weird but sometimes one can find the answers on its own
I used to have really good friends that I could relate to that had good advice. Since we are too different now, it’s no longer the case. So sadly, I come here. Sometimes there are support groups as well that maybe that have folks with similar issues.
It was a lot better when I had friends though.
Yeah I understand your feeling. I had some friends where I had to step away because I didn't feel like I was being helped. I've realized that 7 Cups can be a good place to find answers, as you mention.
I don't ask for advice really. I tend to try and deal with things on my own because I have issues with being hyper independent.
Yeah I see it varies on the person. In my case I took a lot of bad advices that led me nowhere. I feel it's good to seek them out on my own, even if it can be uncomfortable and time-consuming.
Multiple answers, but definitely my family here on 7Cups <3
I see. Where do you seek help in here? Do you make a thread? Do you join a group?
Sometimes Googly, mainly myself, I'll go through it in my head, I'll write it out and go back and forth and decide what to do.
I might use an acquaintance as a sounding board but usually I can figure things out or solve it in some form without anyone's input.
I don't like asking for help.
I see. I would like to do that more frenquently as well, sometimes I feel it's so specific what I'm looking for that I just can't google it
Asking ChatGPT honestly :D
Do you feel it has worked for you?
*has it worked for you
I start a chat in 7cups, I search online for the things I'm going through, I try to think logically about the situation, my last resort is talking to a friend (last because they are normally busy).
It's almost the same situation I'm in actually. I would add books, I try to read books that I feel it could help me
I never asked anyone around me, drilling myself with my issues. I don't have any friends and my family is far away...I don't want to bother them with my burden. On 7 cups I found two great listeners, they helped me a lot already. Also I spoke with someone from my work to explain how do I feel lately and i also got some support. Dealing with it alone it's not an option for me anymore...
I'm glad you have received support. That's what I'm looking for right now. I also have found a listener here that helped me a lot but I lost the chat and I don't remember their name 🫠
@EdwardLee
I really like this question.
In my opinion i dont think people look for advise.
I think people look for prespectives and see what alines more with their ethics and believes and if it fits they do it.
In my case, when i feel lost and dont know what to do i ask what people think about the situation or i investigate on my own what are some options i can take.
I think in reality what we are looking for is information to then be able to make the decision we feel is best for us.
@GentlemanZG
I agree!
I tend to know deep down what I need!
But I need an outside unbiased perspective!
@Amanda84
Agreed, only we know what is best for our life.
But it doesnt hurt to listen to what others have to say, we may end up learning something new and valuable .
@GentlemanZG
Agreed!
I didn't see it that way. I feel it is more concise what you say.
Thanks for you answer, I find it quite helpful.
