2 Signs That You Are Toxic and How to Fix

1. You host pity parties too often.

The defense mechanism of branding ourselves as a victim may give us the illusion that we can evade responsibility for our actions, only to realize later that this mentality has caused us to stagnate or regress. Additionally, by continually playing the victim card, we allow difficult life circumstances to take control of our lives. To tame a victimhood mentality, use some of the following antidotes:

• Use positive affirmations like “I am worthy, I am valuable, and I deserve love.”
• Change the broken record that keeps telling you that you are not good enough by thinking about the time when things were good, when you were in control, and when you liked yourself.
• Stop comparing yourself with others only to convince yourself that you have it worse than others or that others have better resources to break out of the spell than you do.
• Breathe. Slow down and calm your mind.

2. You try to impose your reality on others.

When we successfully come out of a rut of prolonged suffering, we naturally feel inclined to shout our solution to anyone who will listen. We may feel like we are superhuman, that we know how things work, and that our solution is the only way to fix your situation. We easily forget that just because something has worked for us doesn’t mean it will work for someone else. Solutions work best when they are tailored to someone’s personality, experience, and situation.

The fix for this brand of toxicity is two-fold:

1. Get comfortable with the idea of just being there for them. Often, when people vent, all they want is to be heard and understood and not be coached about ways to heal.
2. Introspect. If you find it hard to express compassion for someone else, ask yourself, "What would I want someone to say to me if I were in this position?"

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