Be Honest 💕
If you had to be honest in this exact moment, no mask, no filter, what word or sentence would describe how you feel?
Anxious, not wanting to go to sleep yet so i don’t have to go to work tomorrow
@forcefulShade7390
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i just want a hug. I’ve been distanced from my entire support systems for 3 years of and on. I’m married now and still separated because of my work. I spend my days mostly alone longing patiently for when I’m not anymore. Every day is a struggle to convince myself every day is a good day when continually I’m without what I need the most. My life isn’t terrible, I make decent money, I provide for my family, and my wife is loyal and amazing, I just need a hug now more than ever. That’s my honest truth.
@CodeOrangelt
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Sending you hugs!
I'm sorry you have to be away so long!
Crushed.
My GF broke up with me a few days ago. She's unsure of her feelings for me. She has OCD, so it could be that. She also suffers from emotional numbing and brain fog because of her medication. I have to accept, though, that her feelings may be valid and she lost attraction to me.
I also now believe I suffer from ROCD based on how I've been coping.
@humorousCat5333
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I'm really sorry to hear that 💜💕
@humorousCat5333 I have a problem asking nosey questions like this but I really hope you don't mind but you did post it and I don't mean it badly at all. I am just interested. Do you worry too much about her moods to the point of not talking about her in a positive light?
Totally understand you asking that! No, I don't talk badly about her moods. I myself struggle with mental health issues so I'm understanding of what she is going through, even if I've never had the exact symptoms she's experiencing. It is just difficult for me right now to wrap my head around things because she herself isn't sure what's going on. I'm in pain from her abrupt decision.
Agony and distress over time loss of college , with some resentment towards me mom for not letting me continue my studies back in 2023.
@blueFarm4957
I'm sorry to hear that 💜 💕
Right now, I feel like I’m stuck between hope and fear.
I want to grow and improve, but sometimes I compare myself too much to others.
I’m trying to focus on small steps forward.
@DaveCzapel
Thanks for being honest.
It's important to just embrace who you are as a person.
That's more than enough.
Focusing on one thing at a time makes things less pressured.
I wish you the very best, nice to meet you 💜🥰
Thank you so much, Amanda 💜 Your words mean a lot to me.
I think you’re right — focusing on one thing at a time could really help me.
I will try to bring this principle into my life.
@DaveCzapel
It's a pleasure, good to have you here 💜 💕
Small steps forward are the right way Dave. And comparing yourself tp others either makes you depressed (potentially) or if you are doing better than others, prideful about it (potentially). Carve you own way out in life, do your best! What more can you do? Everyone has different levels of talent in various things. Find what you seem to be most talented for and go for it, even if money in the bank isn't the main thing it brings. Helping others in some manner is what its all about and that is attitude! You can be working as a bricklayer, and be proud that you are building someone a place to be warm and dry, OR you can never consider that fact and absolutely hate your job. Attitude is everything! Its difficult to somehow make yourself optimistic! But through small steps like you are doing, you can change your life considerably. Keep doing what you're doing. Keep improving yourself in increments. Its how we learn to walk, throw a baseball, any skill is learned with small steps! Love you brother. Hang in there!!
@warmheartedHuman836
What a lovely response 💜💕
@warmheartedHuman836
Thank you so much for your words, brother. They really mean a lot to me. I guess you’re right – small steps are the only way forward, and maybe I should stop being so hard on myself when I compare my life to others. Your message gave me some hope and reminded me that attitude is something I can actually choose. I’ll keep going step by step, and your support makes it feel a little easier. Sending you respect and gratitude!
@DaveCzapel Hi, I just happened to see your post on this where I didn't see it before. You absolutely have to take baby steps. The word "perfectionism" doesn't exist, so you need to stop thinking with that mindset or you're going to drive yourself crazy. I've done it. Just do your best, that should mean enough! Learn to soften up on yourself, it's necessary.
@mlwhit83
Thanks a lot for this, I really needed to hear it. Perfectionism is definitely my trap — I always feel like whatever I do isn’t enough. You’re right, it only drives me crazy and keeps me stuck. I’ll try to remind myself that doing my best should be enough, even if it’s not perfect. Learning to be softer on myself feels strange, but I know it’s necessary.
@DaveCzapel Also, try to stop comparing yourself to others. I mean, why would you want to anyways? Learn to be in your own skin and live for yourself, and be happy with your own creation! Being unique & different is far better than being a copycat of another! Be a leader, not a follower!
@mlwhit83
Thank you, I really appreciate your words. Comparing myself to others has been one of my biggest struggles, and it often makes me feel like I’m always behind. What you said about being unique instead of a copy really hit me — I’ve never thought of it that way. Maybe focusing on my own path instead of measuring it against others is the perspective I need to practice.
@DaveCzapel Yes, absolutely. When you think about comparing yourself to others, it's kind of like a copycat. If you are so focused on what others are doing and trying to not be that person or be better than them, then you're looking at them as your superior or leader, and I'd never want that for myself. Create your own self and own path, regardless of how others view or feel about you! Learn to not care about what others think, say, feel, and do! I have the motto of "FTW" and "***" about what anyone thinks of me! In fact, I probably have one of the best fan clubs in the world, lol.
@mlwhit83
Thanks, I really like your energy. You’re right — when I compare myself, I automatically put others above me, and that’s exactly what I don’t want. I’ve been too focused on how others see me instead of just building my own path. Your “FTW” motto made me smile, maybe I need to borrow a bit of that attitude. Respect for your perspective — and for having the best fan club out there, lol.
@DaveCzapel Thank you so much! It works for me, but I wasn't always this way, trust and believe. A lot of work I've done on myself, but I did develop that mentality early on. I simply don't care and when people start accepting themselves for who they are and not caring what others think, they'll feel so much better about themselves and how they navigate this world! Best wishes!!! I do have a ***, feisty, assertive, and aggressive personality! I love it!
@mlwhit83
Thank you so much! It really means a lot. I know it takes work to get to that place — I wasn’t always this way either, but I’m trying to build that mindset step by step. I can relate to what you said about personality — people, especially at work, often describe me in a similar way: a bit feisty, assertive, and even aggressive sometimes. But I know how to be kind and warm to those who are truly worth it. Respect for sharing your journey — it gives me motivation to keep going!
@DaveCzapel Aww, you're very welcome. I love my *** personality, and yes, I'm very kind and giving to others. I joined here to help others of what I've already healed, and still continuing my own healing journey in other areas too. I wish you all the best! Hold your head high and show mfkers who tf is boss! Lol.
@mlwhit83
Thanks, I really appreciate that! I can feel your strong energy through your words, and it’s inspiring. I’m still on my own healing journey too, but hearing from people like you makes it easier to keep going. I’ll definitely try to keep my head high and show them who’s boss, haha. Respect to you and your path!
@DaveCzapel Lmfao, thank you! I'm not one that many can handle. I'm too much for most, but I know myself well! I can easily read people too! Call yourself a rare, fkn gem! A diamond in the ruff!
@mlwhit83
Lmfao, thank you! I’m not one that many can handle either — people often find me hard to deal with, and I do think I read emotions pretty well. Call us rare, fkn gems — diamonds in the rough!
@DaveCzapel Yup, you're probably a water element! Lol. Maybe not, but we have the same vibes, and it makes me wonder, lol.
@mlwhit83
Haha, water element, huh? That’s interesting — I’ve never really thought about elements in that way. But I like that you mentioned we’ve got the same vibes, it makes me curious. What do these elements mean to you, and how do you connect them to personality or energy?
@DaveCzapel I'm talking about zodiac signs. I'm a triple water element, which is why I'm so intuitive with certain things, but there's a lot about me you don't know yet! Hehe...;)
@mlwhit83
The only thing I really know about zodiac signs is that I’m a Cancer. But it’s a really interesting topic, and it was nice hearing more about it from you. :) It would also be nice to get to know you better.
@DaveCzapel Yay! I knew I was right, very intuitive here. You're a water element. I'm a Pisces with a Scorpio Moon, and Cancer Rising. Pisces, Scorpios, and Cancers are all water elements of the zodiac. My birthday is March 4. Yours is probably in July somewhere.
@mlwhit83
My birthday is exactly on July 17, so you were spot on! It’s amazing how accurately you picked that up just from our conversation — really impressive and interesting. I’m curious what else you’ve noticed.
@DaveCzapel I want to know if you have a Fb account, because I want to talk to you, lol. That's ***! I bet you have a fierce personality!
@mlwhit83
What do you think about starting on another platform? I’d rather not leave a *** link here, but I’m open to other options if you have any suggestions. :)
@DaveCzapel I'll leave you my link instead: https://www.***.com/mlwhit83
@DaveCzapel Or if that makes you feel uncomfortable, I have Skype and an email addy. Let me know what you're done for.
@mlwhit83
We can start with email for now — you can reach me at boskieven @ *** com if that’s okay with you. :)
@DaveCzapel *** yeah, it's fine for me, but is that a G mail account cuz it blocks it out?
@mlwhit83
yes is G :)
@DaveCzapel Great, going to email you now!
@DaveCzapel I don't know what it is, but wanted to talk to you yesterday too. I haven't met or wanted to talk to anyone on here, but you're different. Your vibe is just like mine, and I'm loving it! So, I'm being fierce and assertive, I want to talk to you! Lol.
@Amanda84 I am feeling a bit cool and confident now that I am joining your community, but under that mask of confidence I feel sore, so left out, and utterly picked on (am I doing this right? Not sure). I feel shy that I imagine 2 people, who grew too big for their britches to speak to me, criticizing me but I hold it in. Because I missed out on a lot in my life, I'm not feeling good because I think I won't ever catch up. You just don't pick on Sam. It is bad listening. Always remember how joked at and sad I am but how beautiful I am at the same time.
@affectionateGrapefruit111
Welcome, you are welcome here 💜
@affectionateGrapefruit111
hi your welcome here judgment free zone. we know it hard to believe one belongs any where we still at times feel that way. but we found we belong here at 7 cups it lot different then other places we been online so yes you belong here
hope to talk to you when around we mostly in the chat part of 7 cups we find this community' very supportive we been here a year next month
know your cared about and wanted here on 7 cups
@Amanda84 I feel empty inside at this moment. I am going through a very tough break up and while I get up in the morning and go about my day sometimes it just all hits me at once and I feel completely lost , empty and like breaking down.
@azureHickory516
I'm sorry you feel that way 💜💕
@azureHickory516
I'm sorry you feel that way 💜💕
You are not alone here!
@Amanda84
Anxious. Frustrated. Worried.
@ScorpiaD
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Sad yet hopeful!
@gentleVase7628
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