Breakup Depression

@hanseru

Thank you for being brave enough to share all of that. Breakups are hard enough, but when the connection was deep, when the love felt unique, and when you’re still forced to stay in touch for practical reasons? That pain hits different.

You’re not weak for still breaking down. Healing doesn’t move in a straight line. Some nights will ache more than others, even if everything seems okay on the surface. You’re doing the right things — sleep, nutrition, staying busy — but emotional wounds don’t always listen to logic.

What you're feeling is real, and you don’t have to carry it alone. I hear you. And yes, there are people who will get it. Even if the story is different, the ache is familiar.

You’re already showing strength just by reaching out.

@hanseru

Hey there. Thank you for opening up and being vulnerable with us, you're really brave for doing that. Breakups are hard especially when you haven't received the closure you desired. But sometimes the open ends are just meant to be. We have to live with the thousand questions and wonder - what would have happened if/I wish I could do it another way. It's a never-ending loop. I'm glad you're willing to step out of this pattern and heal. Time will heal you. One bad experience doesn't define your future. You have the liberty to love again. I want you to remember that we are here for you if you need us. Connect with a listener if you need to. Join group chatrooms to find people who are going through the same grief. We have rooms like the Member Community Room, Support Room, etc. I'm sure they'll welcome you with open arms. You'll be fine.

I understand. I have been through a breakup too, and till then, I had no idea that heartbreak hurt physically. This whole thing will be messy, and will take time. But I believe in you. You've got this. Right now u may feel like crying, you may always feel the longing, but soon, you'll wake up with a gleam in your eyes. It's getting better. Slowly but steadily, it will hurt lesser and you will find new connections. Maybe you may start Liking yourself more, or even other people. I understand that it hurts and it's confusing and closure is hard and the connection seems irreplaceable. But maybe you don't need to find someone like her. Maybe a better woman will find you. I don't know what your story is, but I do know that you deserve love and kindness, so please hang in there, please heal yourself, because I promise you, it's worth it.

@hanseru I feel you I had to break up with my girlfriend as she cheated on me. I went through the depression and bad eating habits in the early stages of post break up, but it gets better . Just remember that there is always someone around you that you can talk to whether on here or in real life. 

You will be able to share your feelings and that will help you to process them. It's natural for us to keep our feelings private when we can. When an animal is wounded it goes off to a hiding place and hisses at anyone who gets near. This is just a natural process when we are wounded and trying to heal. It's good you are seeking the help you need! I am in the same boat. It's difficult and takes time. We all heal at our own pace.

I’ve been through something similar and it was a nightmare for me as well. I’m here if you want to talk about it. No judgement

@hanseru I actually am here because I just got dumped. I'd love to talk, but try to remember that whatever the cause was to your break up, whatever stressed you most in the relationship, if they're not fighting for it then do you want to tell your future children you're chasing it? It also helps to just focus on yourself. Focus on things that you'd never do or things that you couldn't do in the past. 

I’m going through a breakup too it’s about to be 3 months. You’re not alone. If u ever want to talk I’m open to listening