Confused
I am 40 married and I have two kids.
My husband cheats seldomly with other girls by saving their pictures in his phone and talking to them on phone .
Saying to me that he has no intention to marry anyone . Its just his way of killing time and spend some quality time..
I am just confused isn't it a form of cheating?
I am Muslim and totally dependent on my husband financially.
Needs supportive friends and some platonic relationships.
@Rabi2929
This is absolutely cheating.
I wonder what he would think if the shoe were on the other foot.
It's disrespectful and inconsiderate.
I'm sorry you are being subjected to this 💚
Thankyou I am emotionally drained. Finding no way out..he is habitual of doing this.. Your kind words are a great support .
@Rabi2929
A pleasure 💚
Thankyou I am emotionally drained and some kind words are really helping...Finding no way out..
@Rabi2929
Sorry you're going through that. Cheating can hurt so bad and unleash all the negative thoughts and self-doubt nobody wants to ever face.
Have you guys talked about this? Is that an option? How would it go?
I am a house wife with two kids and financially dependent on him. I tried to confront him and he took it so casually like there is nothing to worry about and he is just enjoying spending quality time.. i have no choice but to live with the flow i guess... Heart broken and depressed.
I'm really sorry you are going through this. Have you talked to your parents about this?
@vforvenkata
My father passed away 15 years ago and my mother is very old. Cannot share anything there
That's too bad. Did you think of talking to a lawyer? Usually, it is possible to get alimony until you could settle and start earning. And child care is a given thing after divorce for wife's who are dedicated in taking care of household in a marriage.
Alternatively you could try and find NGO's that help moms in your position.
Oh my dear sister.. this is definitely cheating.
You are married and have kids! What is this. He shouldn’t talk to other women in any case.
That’s why Allah orders for men to lower their gaze when there’s a woman. And men shouldn’t do something that hurts their wives nor something they just simply don’t like.
He should kill and spend quality time with you and your children!
I’m sorry you’re going through this but you’re never alone in this. May Allah help you out with and bless you and your children 🤍
Stay safe sister, sending love 💗
@loveArisu
Thanks for your kind words . It means alot to me.
I wish and pray if he can understand what lowering the gaze means.
He prays 5 times a day but at the end of the day he is doing all this.
May Allah lighten his heart and show him the right path.
You can read it for him. It says men should lower their gaze and women should cover their body.
Surah An-Nur (24:30)
˹O Prophet!˺ Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their chastity. That is purer for them. Surely Allah is All-Aware of what they do.
That’s why we Muslims wear hijab/niqab.. it’s what Allah orders.
Because men and women are built different. Eyes are gateways to desire. Men are responsible for controlling their own behavior and temptation is not an excuse.
Stay safe sister. Fi amanillah 🤍
What you’re describing sounds very confusing and painful. Just to assure you that your feelings are valid and understandable. Hugs as you find peace....
This seems like a good place to share. Non-judgemental and caring. My wife left me for the person she was cheating with. It was hard and at the time it felt like every day took a week off the end of my life. Just know you are supported and whatever comes, you will be able to handle.
@bubbleStrawberries6246
I hope you are in a better place now 💚🤗
@bubbleStrawberries6246.
I hope and pray that you find peace.
Its not easy to go through all this. Sending best wishes all the way to you...
I’m so sorry you had to go through this. I can’t say how much pain and suffering and betrayal you must’ve felt.
Cheaters, are making me disgusted.
So good for you, brother. Would you want to spend your life with someone like this? Alhamdulillah she left. You have chance in life to be truly happy.
I’m happy that you’re here brother. Hope you have a good day 😌
Dear All.. I am happy i found a platform where I can talk my heart out without any judgemental comments.
Thankyou for your kind words.
I am bereaved mother too... 5 years back lost my 7 years old boy to a rare medical condition. I was trying to heal from that trauma and bad habits of my husband continues without any pause.
Everytime i caught him he tries to focus on our relationship then every other year he comes back to his routine trying to find girls in his circle to talk to. I am emotionally drained. Trying to find some work to do but i have zero experience of practical jobs .Want to become financially independent at first then will see where life takes me.
@Rabi2929
I'm so sorry for your loss 💚
I’m so sorry, my dear sister. I understand how hard it is to lose someone.
He might be a little angel now 🤍 you will meet him in Jannah, Inshallah.
You need your husband to heal, you need That someone to help you and support you. Can you talk to him openly? I would tell him you lost your child, and now he’s losing you too, while cheating.
You are worth so much sister. Pray for guidance 🤍
Im really sorry you are going through that. It seems like he is being extremely disrespectful to you and I would definitely say he is cheating.
I hope you get out of this situation 🤍
As A man I am embarrassed to admit this happened to me. It did cost me my marriage. We did talk about it, but I was immature to realize what I was doing to my partner. She did not deserve my action of what I had done. To this day almost 20 yrs later I regret my stupid and selfish actions. So, with this being said take a long hard look at life. Know YOU and your children are worth sooo much more than what's being done to you. Your value is so much higher than his ignorance.