Daycare Lady Doesn't Want Son Around (rant)

Hey, it's Imp.

Just been dealing with issues as son's current daycare with the way she talks to me and how she treats son & complains about son to me, but she NEVER says ANYTHING to son's dad/my ex.

No complaints ever, even when he's the one showing up late, she keeps quiet or just texts me asking "Who's picking up [son's name]" even though I told her ex already was. She only complains to me. Granted, her native language & mine are the same and son's dad is always making a "mad dog" face or seems unapproachable, but I feel she does things on purpose. AND she sometimes still talks to me in English instead, even tho we share a mutual language. . . It's idk dumb.

I was late only ever twice for pick-up since the couple months using her daycare services. I told her with my job, it is usually a 9/5 based on job assignments. Son's dad is almost always close to being late, her daycare is closed after 5:30, and he'll come around 5:35, or 5:40 and she complains to me lol. Ok? Tell son's dad!

She complains that she can't handle a "special needs" kid and doesn't want him around during inspection because will make her daycare look bad that the "special needs" kid isn't receiving help.(my son was in speech therapy, but got kicked out because ex would be late or no show to appointments he PROMISED to take son to).

Son's non-verbal, has gone to speech therapy, and has trauma. He's not "special needs", he would need a diagnosis for that. Also, when she does showings for the daycare, she requests I pick up son early, while the other parents kids stay. It's messed up. My son has the habit of playing alone, taking off his shoes, and sometimes he takes of his clothes if he goes potty and she gets mad and keeps complaining to me about it... I always correct son if he does stuff like that so he doesn't get into the habit (also, in my culture, we ALWAYS fake off shoes in the house so??? Why is there problem??)

I've complied to her requests as much a possible, I've paid any and ALL late fees but yesterday she went off on me for dropping him off early when I went to pick up son. I normally take the bus(my car is down), but got a ride that day. If ride would've dropped me off at the house, I would've scrambled to take bus and would be late to (new) work. She requested I pick him up early that day, I tried but had to go home and pick up my glasses as my eyes dried out with the contacts and I'm blind without it. If I have my son, I need to be aware. I apologized for the tardiness, and also because traffic is bad, and she still got angry.

She told me "All next week, I'm closing the daycare down for the move" which is a lie, because she gave a paper stating that only 3, days, she's only doing that to me to punish me. She also mentioned months prior, that I should find a closer daycare when she moves or find a different one(I was looking too after her rude comment). She just doesn't want to "deal with" a special needs kid and apparently I'm late?... In the morning, I might come at 8:30 or 9, instead of 8, but most daycares/preschools have a set time (from 7am-6pm for example) that kids can be dropped off, no questions, as long as it's within the range or a full-day. I guess her daycare is more of a babysitting service... As long as it's considered a "full day" by the people covering the service. And anyways, she never wants to deal with son, so the shorter the time, the better for her(as long as it's full hours)The longer, she hates it.

I honestly DON'T care anymore and plan on changing daycares next week and won't say a word to her. Only to DES, because she's been rude to me. And I'm going to report her too.

I've been going through hard times. I'm on the verge of homelessness, my car is down, was unemployed for close to a month after son was in a car accident because prior job blew up on me for not "following schedule" when I had to take time off for son (now I'm working at different job), and put a restraining order on ex. I've tried getting son back into speech therapy, and the daycare lady thinks I'm not trying, even when I show proof and gave up. There's a LONG wait-list and it's also hard being broke/no reliable transportation for the moment.

I never do *** to spite her, I'm TRYING.

I try HARD. I ALWAYS apologize and try my best.

I'm not an *** for no reason.

Sometimes I miss the bus, or the bus I need is caught in traffic so I miss it when it's already at stop and I'm chasing after it when I get off the prior bus. I cannot jaywalk if I have son, I won't risk it.

Anyhow, thanks for listening to me rant lol.

I'm getting a new daycare here soon.

Wish me luck!