Feeling worse

And then kept on saying that I'm playing the victim card because i told her that she's being and it made me cry. She said she has healthy relationships with give and take unlike me because clearly it's someone's fault as if it's mine.

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Maybe she meant well, but just being and saying it harshly more.

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And you can't be loved without conditions, but that love is rather rare. God loves you unconditionally. And then it is more normal to parents, father and mother love their child unconditionally.

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Were you just venting or did you want feedback?...

When we ask for feedback from anyone...... sometimes it is not what we expected.   Text or message often only have the tone we give it. when you say they yelled in this format perhaps they had keyboard on caps lock? 

the " love yourself and it does attract others" theory is often disregarded by those who have not embraced it, I did that too ... Until I practiced self-love and it Really worked for me. For those who had it work from them may not like being told it is ridiculous either.   

Listeners who try may give feedback you do not like.  not as mean but to have you see things differently. What kind response did/ do you want? 

Love always has conditions and give and take .... if that makes you uneasy or mad perhaps professional therapy would be better. 

*Professionals also give feedback that you might not like.

Im so sorry for what happened to you. I hope you report them

Hi. I understand the message The Listener was trying to pass, but maybe it wasn't said with the kind intentions that it needed to be. Love can be easy and difficult to give and receive at the same time.

I think they were trying to tell you that when you spend the time and Learn To Love Yourself, you give the best love to other people. It's difficult because when people come out of a relationship or have other issues where they are not feeling overly great about themselves, people tend not to give great love to others. It's not that they mean to do that, but that's how they're feeling about themselves at that moment.

Spending time alone, figuring out what makes you happy in life will carry over to other people.

There's definitely no blame or shame, it's adaptation. You Learn To Love Yourself so much and you can give that Same Love to others. Working on yourself is the best present you can give to yourself.

I hope that makes sense! Please let me know if this helped!

@Azra00zzI feel sorry about your experience. I just want you to know that you deserve unconditional love and care. I'm here anytime you feel to be heard and I assure you it'll be nonjudgmental listening session. Stay blessed ❤️💖

@Azra00zz No. It’s not normal or acceptable 💙

You can be loved unconditionally. You don’t deserve to be yelled at or blamed. This should be a safe space for you to get out what you need to, not somewhere that makes you cry.

Feel free to reach out to me if you’d like to try again 💙