Friend
Hey so I don’t even know how to process this really but my best friend for 2 years blocked me for no reason and it’s not like I was the mean one (vent): whenever I had panic attacks she would leave , she made my best friend of 6 years lie to me with her saying that they « couldn’t keep supporting me » during the worst time of my life (she knew what was going on) , she made me skip dance class and get in trouble, at my birthday party she called my Spanish teacher at 1am (I was asleep and my other friends were watching a movie) and they almost made me go back to school during the holidays to get told off severely (like almost expelled) and she lied saying she didn’t know who’s number it was when she clearly did (called it multiple times during her school trip in Spain) and if that’s not that bad after all of that on my birthday party she threw her bags on the other side of my gate and started menacing me to let her out and stuff. And after my birthday she just continued texting me as if nothing happened and yesterday I checked cause I was going to ask her if her back to school was ok (she changed schools for her future job) and she didn’t receive it and I couldn’t see her profile picture (she’s always had on) and same thing in normal messages. Also she has ADHD which normally I wouldn’t care about but she was doing 0 effort (she’s would not do exercises purposely and if the teachers asked she’d just say she “forgot” and she told me this so it’s true) and she didn’t even try to concentrate like I would have to explain everything twice. So yeah idk why she blocked me I’ve basically done only one thing wrong in our whole friendship (there’s more I could add for you guys but it would be so long) and I know she was terrible but we were still friends so she just blocked me out of the blue (hadn’t talked to her for like 2 weeks)
Anyways byeee sorry for the rant
@Lolo368 I’m so sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way. Even though it hurts you deeply, this all sounds very unhealthy. Sometimes friendships fall apart because they no longer work. Sometimes you need distance to reflect. I understand your situation very well—I would feel the same way. Illnesses can overwhelm people, and because of that, I’ve lost many people too. But there are people who learn to cope without lies and without games. Do you have something that brings you comfort?
@Lolo368
It seems that what you went through is very difficult and has affected your feelings. It is natural to feel confused and sad after your friend’s actions, and it is important to take care of yourself and give yourself the support and care you deserve 💚
And now she came infront of my School and basically just said hi to my other friend completely ignored me except for saying like oh I don’t have school Wednesday mornings and then gave a pack of sweets to my other best friend…
@lolo368
I could be wrong but it sounds like she may be jealous of you in some way . That may be why she acts like that . But that’s just a thought . Sorry you’re going through this .
Ok so apparently she blocked me because i was talking behind her back (lol I wasn’t just telling my friends what she did at my birthday) so yeah
That is talking behind her back IF it is about something that she doesn’t want brought up but if it’s good stuff then sis, she just wanted an out—count your blessings. It’s best to apologize if you were inconsiderate but if you did nothing wrong, ensure she never has access to you ever again. Sorry I couldn’t read the paragraph but just know, it’s okay to be human and be gentle w yourself and others. Usually the good one asks what they did wrong or what decision got them to that place and the other doesn’t take accountability for playing their part in mishandling the situation which could’ve easily been resolved w a 2-min communication.
Okay so I read the paragraph bc someone mentioned jealousy and I understand it first hand as a pretty girl. Sis, please understand and remember that the trash took itself out. But I get it, it’s good to vent it out. And clearly you have a beautiful soul so instead of asking why she was so horrible, you blame it on you—none of this is on you. None except for giving access to someone as you, as you wrote, “I know she was terrible”. She’s not your people.
Your life is going to get better now that the dark hole is gone. Please sit and reflect why you chose to let someone like that ever in your circle and be selective about everyone else in your life. How are they benefitting you and vice versa? Bc it seems you place yourself in a position to be used. Learn to be disliked and hated for being authentic. This is a needed skill. Your boundaries matter and your voice matters. There is nothing to question, nothing to process or be confused about. You’re an amazing friend and deserve kind, supportive ahh loving, ACCOUNTABLE people around you, period. She needed to block you bc you’re no longer acting like a mat on the floor to be stepped on. Accept that you are doing better now and finding your worth as a human being.
Don’t ask why cheap stuff rusts. Ask why you got it in the first place when you could’ve had a diamond. Now you know better—just do better bb so your people can find you and don’t make you question then on 7cups🤍
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Thank you sooooo much you’re sooo kind aahhhh 💖💖💖💖💖
