101 Feelin' & Dealin' with Mae

"It's too boring to take life seriously.. We're literally just vibing on some weird former floating space fireball that somehow grew grass"

101 Feelin'  & Dealin' with Mae - This is #1 of a series with random hopefully relevant topics, I didn't know I was so passionate about until I wrote them down. 

I saw this quote on Pinterest last week which said: "What doesn't k!ll you, gives you a set of unhealthy coping mechanisms & a very dark sense of humor" which made me think about how Overrated Healing actually is. Partly because I want to grab your attention by simply stating this clear-cut unpopular opinion, but mostly I want to make you think more deeply about the concept of healing.

This is not me saying that there is no such thing as healing. However, on social media a lot of 'come on my heal journal with me' type of content is presented. Some are, either consciously or unconsciously, implying that there is such a thing as 'a healing journey' with as end goal 'being healed'. I believe this is a harmful concept. We need to understand the dynamics of hurting and healing. We often talk about healing as if it's a journey with a final destination: a point where we've worked through our pain and can finally consider ourselves healed. But what does being healed actually mean? Does it mean nothing hurts us anymore? That we've worked through every difficult experience we've ever had? That we'll never struggle with something we thought we'd already overcome?

I don't think that's how being human works. Life doesn't stop happening once we've worked through our problems. We'll continue to experience things, change as a person and learn about ourselves. So when exactly are we supposed to consider ourselves 'healed'?

Being hurt in an inevitable part of life. Give yourself permission to feel what you're feeling instead of pretending you're okay. Yes, scream and cry on the top of your lungs, let it all out...The goal is never to become someone who never gets hurt. But remember that you don't have to stay in that moment forever, either.. 

Hurting and feeling DOES have a purpose. They can teach us things about ourselves that we might not have noticed otherwise. Of course, not every painful experience comes with some grand life lesson, and we don't have to be grateful for everything we've been through. Sometimes, things just hurt. And just because something hurts again doesn't mean we've 'failed to heal'. Believing that, we might start seeing every difficult feeling as a setback, every bad day as proof that we haven't made enough progress, and every old wound that resurfaces as a sign that we're back where we started. 

Simply put, in the end the goal isn't to 'heal'. The goal is to get to know yourself better and learn that you are more resilient than you know. This weird former floating fireball makes you fall down hard but also grow just like the grass somehow grew. We do the work, feel the feels, and heal the heals, whatever that might mean. And maybe the point isn't to reach a state where we're finally healed, but to learn how to navigate life, knowing that we'll inevitably get hurt along the way.

That's all for today💛

Love,

Mae