Husband is destroying my self esteem
Before we had a great relationship but about a year ago he started a new job that’s a lot more stressful than his previous ones(but 3x more money). I get that it stresses him out , I’ve always acknowledged that and tried to help but lately he’s just been taking it out on me in a weird way.
I’m a stay at home mom and our son has some mild issues(adhd and a few autism like behaviors) but according to my husband I do nothing all day. I do 100% of the childcare, cooking, cleaning, etc. And now he’s getting mad at me because I had a friend that was a guy when I was in high school, I haven’t spoken to that guy in over a decade not to mention that there was nothing between us.
He’s even been criticizing my appearance, why don’t I wear more makeup, why do I look like that actress(um, let’s see because I’m not her?). I’m not frumpy or anything but I’ll never be a supermodel or wear super thick makeup to the grocery store.
I don’t know what to do. I feel like my self esteem is being ground away.
@lavenderCranberry4368
you are not alone many men do this when they are stressed out at work if you are at home. I just went back to work because spouse was doing the same thing to me. whatever i did at home was not enough etc.... now when his life is not any better and i do not have time to make special dinners etc he wishes he had not been such an jerk about it.
I do not understand why some do this making your spouse miserable is NOT helping their non working hours.
@toughTiger6481
I can’t even get a job because it would be pointless, childcare cost would take most of it and I’d still have to do all the chores
@lavenderCranberry4368
I know the childcare issue is something you cannot work around ...... and yes i do most of the chores too still but he has to find something else to pick at......i really feel my spouse felt he had no choice in a job that was very hard and stressful because he would need to explain to me and even though i never said a word that i wanted him to keep going because it was a good pay/ benefits
I wish every person and it can be anyone who is taking their stress out on a loved one at home ....in the end jobs can come and go but the damage in your relationships can be permanent
This must be so difficult for you i understand how it's damaging your self esteem u should talk to your husband about it and warn him to not do that
