I Feel Like a Fool
I didn’t put up boundaries. I let myself be taken advantage of, mistreated, used. I gave of myself when I didn’t need to, wore myself out for those who didn’t care. I chose to be what I thought was selfless and kind, and didn’t see that I was just being used. I feel like a fool for only seeing it now. I don’t want to allow these things anymore. I want to have my life back. My health, my well-being in mind, rather than constantly sacrificing, meaning well, but not having it taken well. I don’t want to hurt anymore. I want to have my life back… But it doesn’t feel like me. Being different. It goes outside of who I am. Maybe… Who I thought I was. Maybe who I need to be is still hidden deep in my heart. She’s still there… I just need to find her again.
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Who are the people who took advantage of you? Real life friends? Family? Neighbors? Strangers? Online friends?
Also I’m sorry.
To be honest, I have used people and taken advantage of people, but I am really good at setting boundaries and very rarely get taken advantage of because I just say no. And I wonder if I am being unkind, but sometimes I don’t care all that much because I just can’t do what they’re asking and won’t. I’m really good at setting boundaries.
I wish I had something better to say. Just learn from your mistakes I guess.
I’m just like, “Wait. I am that person. I do use people and take advantage of them.” So it’s a little weird for me to respond to this.
@jesusredeemedme2425 Kiara, you’re at heart a lovely, kind person. Through no fault of your own, the world is often cruel to it’s kindest people. You are right in that establishing boundaries is essentially your job, but failing to do so is an honest mistake- one people will make over and over again.
i second this 💛
@jesusredeemedme2425 don't ever change who you are because your the best 💖 but yep for your mental well being its ok to set boundaries💖💖 helping others being the selfless one, it's who you are and that's a great thing as long as you are not afraid to say no and express yourself too 💗 gives you a giant tiny hug 💗 I love ya girl💖
Hello. I am proud of youu for realising your needs. Please don’t beat yourself up over it. I just hope you can promise yourself to take good care of yourself.