I just wanna be taken care of
And I don't have that right now. I feel like I'm gonna cry. So many memories from the past keep surfacing and I feel as tho I can't function properly. I'm always here for myself, but rn, I also want/need another stable source of love to be there for me. To hold me and help me. I feel terrible(the emotion) rn.
@reservedVase8999
I hope you find this special person to embrace and care for you.. Life can be very hard sometimes and we have trouble finding meaning in our lives.. Good luck finding the right path for you.🌲
Thank you so much. I always try taking care of myself, and being my own special person, but rn I really miss the feeling of wholeheartedly being taken care of.
@reservedVase8999
How do you connect your past memories to not being able to function properly?
And what is "properly" in your views? Who define that "properly"?
Ji, my past memories are surfacing and causing me pain and so much discomfort. All together they subtly add up to so many mental pages. That's why I'm not able to do daily tasks well. I didn't mean it in a bad way, it's just I feel very slow and foggy these days (emotionally) and 2 of my close friends are sacrificing everything for their studies so it makes me feel a little strange even tho logically, I always prioritize myself, and wud never take that path..
I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. You don't have to carry everything alone. It's okay to want someone to lean on—you deserve care and support just as much as anyone else. I hope you're able to be gentle with yourself today. Sending you a big virtual hug. ❤️
Thank you so much for ur sweet words. I hope I can heal. Have a good day🤎
@reservedVase8999 I am sorry you feel that, it sure is really difficult for you. It is alright to feel that these memories like your trapped in them and you cannot get out and that you want to be saved. This is why want to feel safe, to feel like you are not alone, and that you are not struggling alone, but this also means that you feel scared, and that is okay too. Everyone deserves to be loved and taken of, and i believe that one day you will get that. But there is also something important you should know, right now you want someone to hug you to alleviate your pain, so warm hugs to you. You are not alone, and you don't have to be, we are here for you! I am feeling you, and i understand how it must have been difficult for you to process all these emotions at once, maybe you feel powerless now, maybe you don't want to think anymore, you can... maybe not now but you deserve the best life you can get, and for that you can. If you want to talk, we are here! Warm hugs to you.
Thank you so much for trying to hear me. Actually now things are also getting complicated with my friends, they're sweet, but I'm not sure our values align. I also don't know where things are going in general. So yes, that's scary and tiring coz I've already lost so many good friends. But I hope I'll be okay. Thank for crafting such a thoughtful message,💛 I truly appreciate it💜🤎
@reservedVase8999 Thank you for reading what i wrote. Since you mentioned your situation with your friends, i want to share something with you but don't think of it as an advice just a lived experience. At some point in my life, i too felt trapped in my own pain and i wanted someone to care for me, while i expected my friends to be there, you know i didn't use them as an excuse to let out the pain just because we were friend but at least i expected them to feel my pain but they didn't. I felt like i was in pain and i had to carry their problems too, they left when i needed them the most, i felt like they were like bags to carry on top of my problems. I was alone, i needed someone to be there, so i took a decision for my own well-being to cut them off, i knew that i would solve my problems faster without having them in my life, but after a couple of months, one of them tried to reconnect and i refused. It was not the right choice maybe, because you need to forgive the flaws of the humans in general, some people just cannot be on the level of friendship where you are in, so tolerate that if you can. You can of course set a boundary, but also think twice about whether you cut them off or not for good, if they are too much, don't tolerate that. But don't expect too much from this life, having friends decent friends is also good, but it is rare to find flawless people when it comes to friendship. We are here if you need to talk. Warm hugs.
Note: apologies for the long comment, just wanted to let you know that there are people who have been there in your position too. You are free agent, you do what you think is best for you and your well-being.
Hii. I'm so sorry u had to go thru those tough times. Thank u for sharing ur experience, it means a lot. I will take my time to reflect and make the right decision. I won't cut them off, but whether to keep them at a distance I'll decide in the coming months. Again, thank u for ur perspective and kind response. I will surely reconnect if I hv any other needs for support. And don't worry, I love reading long, thoughtful messages❤️
I was in the same state some months ago... Just know that you're strong and you'll get over it soon... The earlier you realise that you need no one but only YOU, the better you get.. Just chase your best version... I know it's hard so here I'm you can talk anytime ❤️
Yes it is hard. Thank u for validating my feelings and I hope I'll get better. Thank u for ur response, and I'm glad ur better😄
@reservedVase8999
Is there something that helps you when you feel you should have friends (which is a very valid feeling)? Knowing that you have issues from the past is a great step in healing. Please don't forget how awesome of a person you are!
Thank u for ur sweet words, ur awesome too, as well! I can't think of anything at the moment, but I'll try to find a healthy coping for these. Do u hv any u cud recommend?
@reservedVase8999
I'm a big fan of journaling and self-help, though sometimes different things are needed than that. Every person and situation is different.
There are some 7 Cups self-help resources here: https://www.7cups.com/self-help/
Kindly,
@FaithfulSeasons44
...not sure if these will help you but maybe!
Thank u for the advice!
I am so sorry that you feel this way. I get you, i hope you get all the love you need and this phase of your life passes soon. If you need anyone to talo to, i am here.
Wow thank u so much for ur sweet message, 💛💛. I'll definitely reach out if i need further help. Hv a nice day btw!
@reservedVase8999hi
Hii. How are uu?
Heads up to the people like you who are strong enough to face and still choosing to get up every morning. May you find many good reasons to stand still while waiting. Virtual hugs from people here🙌
Thank u so much for your kind words Valiantlight 💛. U take care too
