Incapable of knowing feelings
Hi, i cant talk to anyone about this so im gonna try here. This is about a guy, lets call him adam. Adam and i have been best friends for a while , but recently our friendship kinda "developed"
More touch and more care and time and love. When i asked him if he likes me, he told me he really likes me. And now hes expecting an answer from me, and for some reason i cant say no and i cant say yes. Something about me is i never really know how i feel about people. Was never my specialty. I dont date or anything. I dated once and ever since then i can hardly know if i like someone , maybe just once. Anyways i hate this so much because i love touching him, seeing him, his hug is the safest hug in the world , and i even changed some things for him but he doesnt know it, Anyways, i told him even if i like you we wont date cause i have uni coming up and stuff , but he just wants an answer. What do i do. Why is this so hard. Im not lacking attention or anything. I just wanna understand why its so easy for everyone to have feelings but not me. Do u think i like him? I told him "listen i think its best to leave this whole thing and if we're meant to be we will be." But he said this method would hurt him , he wants an answer but hes beem so patient and understanding and amazing
Pls help :(
@adaptableLemon7608 I'm not great with relationship advice, sorry 😕 but why not try thinking about this in a different way. So take a break away from him for a few days/a week no contact, and see how much time you spend thinking about him and try to acknowledge in what ways are you thinking of him? Or try to think about another person in the picture, a person he's fallen in love with and they have the most happiest fairytale relationship. And then think about how this would effect you? How would you feel??
like I said I'm not great with this sort of thing, I've never dated anyone. So good luck💖 I hope everything works out the way it's meant to be💖
@dolphinpotato
You might not have tried before because you didn't meet the right person, it's ok to take a chance, love doesn't come often and it's something to embrace. He sounds like a good guy, and there's nothing to lose by taking a chance, wishing you all the best whatever yiu choose 💜💕
It definitely sounds like you like him but you don't want to put some definition on the relationship or to move forward physically too fast. He's also probably terrified that you'll meet someone at university and wants some idea that you might remain, in a sense, faithful to him.
I dont know what you're gonna do about it though. Sorry.
