I think moving on/letting go is one of the hardest things to do
I know why I should let it go, I know there's no point of holding onto what's been upsetting me. I want to prioritize self care, and self love but still, it's so difficult. Because I have memories.. And I worry a lot of what other people think of me. I can't force friendships, I hate when I feel it's about to end. I don't want to worry too much. I should just let it be. I listened to positive affirmations, they help me to cope but then the feelings are back again. I believe after taking little steps, one day I'll finally be able to move on from bad experiences and be myself again. :)
Thanks 7Cups, I feel heard ☕🩷.
@hopefulencounter
Hey, I hear you :) Sometimes letting go of experiences, people and unresolved emotions can be so hard. It makes sense how you are feeling. It it sad when we lose friendships.
It's great that you are recognizing the value of self care and self love. It is beneficial for our wellbeing and mental health, also it takes a little to build up those habits and routines. You will get there I am sure, one step at a time. Positive affirmations can be really good to practice and listen to, just a reminder that you are allowed to feel it all. How do you feel about journaling your feelings and thoughts?
@Sunthruclouds Hii thanks for replying to my post! :] your words mean a lot to me, and it motivates me to be better! I've tried journaling but then stopped doing it, I think of writing again today since it helped me to lighten my sadness.
@hopefulencounter
You're welcome. ❤️
Maybe something to try again if you feel it would be helpful. It's always fun to buy a new pretty notebook to write in.
Something I used to do which was helpful for me was writing 3 things each day that I did good, even if it was small. Like "today I took a walk" or "today I was honest about my feelings".
Used to be hesitant about it at first but later realized how it developed into this self loving practice :)
What kind of affirmations do you like to listen to? Do you have any favourites?
@Sunthruclouds oh! that's actually a nice idea, i'll try to write 3 things too. I usually wrote a long paragraphs about my feelings, this time i'll shorten it, just write the point 😆. thank you for this idea! I want to go back to journaling :] It help my overthinking too. Thank you for your advices!🩷🫶
@Sunthruclouds and yes I do have some favourites! here are the links :
- https://youtu.be/xY48S8a7iWk?si=FKUWOkPCs03Cj5rg I found this one really helpful!
- https://youtu.be/c2DWvL73xto?si=-09-HU8sJU4YBhhm for anxiety
- https://youtu.be/-cJDvUFShBI?si=gP5RiN8tdp2ffJmP for detachment
-https://youtu.be/enQ7vGClx60?si=wL5cV0PUtBfgVDf1 for self forgiveness
@hopefulencounter
You know I understand completely how you feel, and during my life, I also experienced lost. I gave it time. Yes it helped, but still, yes, it was hard. I realised that, life does not give you what you want. Life give you what you need to grow, and also I know now, as a fact, that you hurt you the most in this life, they do the best work for you. they push you the best to go ahead, front, never give up etc.
they give you the gift of awakening, they light you up. Some people hurt you so bad, so bad you never ever can forget it, and even then, they are the one who give you the biggest gift of like.
They push you ahead. You will say: "Never again. or I won't be like him ever. or I will show you... "
and then you move out of your conforte zone, you force yourself to become better, stronger :)
and one day you will thank that person, who hurt you so bad, and made you this person today.
and hurting you, he made a karma for himself. for you!! don't forget that either.
so, it's not the worse thing and the first thing do you really want to let go? do you really want to get better? are you ready not to be just a victim and fell in love with that feeling. Let go and understand why it happened with me what ever happened is the first step.
Please try to understand that, the person who hurt you, doing it, so you can gain a lesson out of it.
@AuroraHelp1111 thanks for giving me insight, after hearing this from you, I feel wiser.. I believe in karma, sometimes I doubt it but ..yes I believe it. You're right about this experience being a lesson for me. It made me realize so many things,. and I also know what to do to not experience it again. Thanks a lot for responding to my post, I want to try my best to fight this feeling of regrets. I wanna turn it into acceptance so I can finally find my peace again. Been trying since January 2025, I can feel I'm getting better ☺️🙏 please
**that 'please' at the end isn't supposed to be here 😅, my autocorrect caused that to show up then I clicked on it
@hopefulencounter. The beauty of turning 50 is I no longer care what others think. What I have neglected is what I think and supplying my own happiness. Their opinions don't matter and I wasted 1/2 my life on them. Now it's about me. I'm relieved and refreshed. I also think of relationships as seasons. Some people are in your life for a few seasons. Some are in for a lifetime and some are in for just one season and no matter how many seasons I accept them for what they are, when they are and when they're over they're over. I reminisce on the good times. I don't dwell on the bad times and I'm relieved. Eventually hopefully you'll get to the age where you feel the same way as I do. It's a cycle of life that everyone needs to experience and I find it delightful.
@humble101 thank you so much for telling me this, you make me realize how things will eventually change as time goes by and how a person must prioritize their own well being and not wasting more time by thinking too much about others.. Your words really gives me new point of view, it's really inspiring. Thanks a lot 🙏🩷 I wish you a wonderful day/night!