It’s insane.

I’m so sorry you feel harassed and abandoned. You could always contact support and if you need a listener to talk to you I’m always here I promise with me you’re safe.

@CatHanderOutNoah

I didn't know this was so bad. I knew about the group chats, but if a listener starts ignoring you with the reason that somebody else needs more help... Oof, I'd get angry too!

I'm so sorry you've experienced this. Becoming a listener is intentionally easy but this leads to lots of (excuse the wording) morons becoming one, too. I promise we're not all like that!

If you want to be sure they're a good listener, you could look for verified listeners. You can filter them out when browsing listeners. Maybe one of them can even take you on long-term.

As for the group chats: This has annoyed me, too. When I'm here as a member I always feel ignored in them. Nowadays I just stick to listeners.

And remember: If a listener behaves inappropriately towards you and violates our rules, it's your good right to report them. This way you'll make sure they won't harass anyone else.

If they're just a bad listener, a bad review might help others to recognize that and look for another listener.

Take care! I wish you all the best, with or without being a 7cups member. Much love

@CatHanderOutNoah

i completely understand what you mean. the feeling when everyone just kinda moves on from your issues to something or someone else sucks. feeling ignored hurts. and i know stuff like that happens more often than it should. i agree with you, there have been quite an amount of arguments, and the fact that it has been for members who know the rules good and clear (mainly like caps and stuff).. feels like so much unnecessary drama.

i’m not sure what to think about people telling someone to log off thinking they’re in crisis. don’t get me wrong, i like our mods, i do understand the rules, but sometimes it feels like people are being told they’re in crisis too early. i feel like they’re not given a chance to talk. sometimes all you need is just someone to talk to. “crisis” prevented. but instead, they’re told to log off and deal with their stuff by themselves. i really don’t know how to feel about it, i know it’s the rules, i know sometimes it’s actually necessary, but sometimes, it’s not. idk

i hope it didn’t sound like i was venting, i wasn’t trying to, just explaining what i’ve seen and what i think about it all.

whatever you do, i respect your decision, but i really do hope you’re gonna stay. ❤️

@CatHanderOutNoah

hihi noodle :>🍜🤍thank you for tagging me🤍 

its okay- I understand >: tho there are good things sometimes the bad things can be really hard to put up with and it gets hard I know >:🤍

ive seen the ignoring thing going on a lot more often now- a while ago I was in sr and someone badly needed support while others were having a light hearted convo- and I just watched them completely get ignored >: it’s terrible to see stuff like that happen and it hurts when it happens to us too :’3🤍

fighting- I’ve seen that way too much now too :’3 it’s terrible because so many others get affected by it weather they’re involved or not- it breaks connections and bonds, it makes some uncomfy / triggered, it makes some people feel unheard, I’ve even seen others get scared to talk in chat rooms when specific people are around >:

when I was new here and there was so much conflict I kind of just thought : everyone here’s going through something, when you’re having a hard time it can make it a lot easier for others to get on your nerves / upset you / hurt you etc- which people call being “sensitive” but I don’t think it’s that at all :P since everyone goes through something I don’t find it shocking that someone will do something where they blow up at others / get upset at something simple / start unnecessary conflict- but then others get affected and thats when it gets worse ): tho I don’t blame anyone it does become too much >:🤍

mhm rainbow room is a safe place to most of us now :0🌈🩷 but I agree that it’s just crazy how we have to be there to feel safe from everything else D: we should be able to be in any room and not feel worse >:

I really understand this part :’3 tho they want the best for you it’s tiring because you’re only trying to get support and not be sent away to a crisis line ]: it gets really predictable at some point and then you don’t want to vent anymore :’3🤍 but I try to keep in mind that others only mean the best with that :0 and tell them they misunderstood the situation :’3🤍

everyone goes through something noodle :0 and everyone deserves support weather they’re popular/ not- look “more hurt” / “less hurt”. I’m sorry people don’t act like that tho >: sure it can be hard to support everyone at the same time but you can’t just ignore someone because others seem to need support “more” than them T~T others can make us feel so invalidated and it really is unfair >: you matter too- a lot and you deserve the support others aren’t giving you noodle >:🩷🍜

ee people shouldn’t have any reason to compare any situation no matter what it is D: who does that T^T there’s a right time to bring in what you go through but if it’s after someone shares their situation that they think isn’t as big as theirs.. that’s not the right time T^T

4 is a lot :0 it is sad >: it feels like others can always manage to drag you in the conflict when you really never wanted to be a part of it >:🤍

I really hope you don’t leave noodle D: you’re way too special for me to just watch you leave >: ive noticed you’ve been online less :’3 I didn’t know it was related >: you’re one of my friends noodle🤍 a really special friend that I hate to see go through so much >:💜 also noo youre not alone D: I’m here *🪑*🤍 if rooms are ever chaotic and there’s conflict you can always make a forum to be able to chat with friends without getting involved in something / affected :0 just a suggestion tho🤍

7 cups *is* meant to be a mental health website/app, a safe place, somewhere where you can be yourself, and to be honest- I never expected 7 cups to necessarily make me “get/feel better” but I also didn’t expect it to make me- and (some) others- feel worse :’3

7 cups does have loadsss of bright sides⭐️:P  but the bad things get too much sometimes- making the good things seem small >:🤍

I don’t know what my opinion on all this is.. >: it’s okay to want a break from it all- but know that I and so many others would miss you so much🤍 but I won’t try to change your mind🤍

I don’t know how this ended up being so long :00 

I do have to go tho- take care !🩷🌈

Hey hey Noah Friend 💕

I am so sorry to hear how you have been feeling. Like many of us you are human with feelings. 7cups is a mental health website which should be a welcoming and safe place for anyone and everyone to share *** they are feeling, not be shoved down and ignored. I know things have been so tough lately my heart is hurt ❤️‍🩹 seeing how bad things have been. The aruging and fights have indeed been unreal this past week. I will always be here to support and listen to you (well as long as the rooms are going insane) you are an amazing wonderful friend 💕 I enjoy you so so so much ✨

~ much Love Regan

@CatHanderOutNoah 

Oh noah I certainly agree that conflicts are going out of hand that providing support is becoming a problem in sr and tcr . Rainbow room being used as sr is just saddening as it shows that how much of a problems are going in other room . Hope things get better and people start acting more mature at their part to just mute people who are in conflict . I am not around a lot due to my boards but I have certainly witnessed how many conflicts have taken place in last past week . I'd suggest that the people who are being mean ( deliberately) or engaging isn't conflicts,  mute them and continue to support and spread love .  People who are not stopping to engage in conflict , need to be ignored and muted so that people who need love get it . 

I hope it gets better * hugs*

@LoveMyMoonflowers !!