Learning Through Making Mistakes

Oh thanks for this wonderful message. I needed to hear this.

Ive made too many mistakes. I show myself compassion. And aim to be wiser ahead.

1. Mistake in the past that taught me a lesson was not to be hasty. If you arent getting where you want to be, being hasty and taking some kind of short cut , might delay your journey even more, because the shortcut will come with some price too

@Heather225

The mistake I made repetitively is that I always handed over the power of judgment to other people. I used to be so dedicated to a club, doing all the heavy lifting behind the scenes, but as an introvert, I rarely spoke . They, however, enjoyed commenting on others, showering their praise, appreciation, and all the best opportunities/awards onto the most "beautiful, cute, and interesting" people. Nobody seemed to care about me. At first, I was angry because I didn’t agree with leaving major roles—like the opening remarks, closing ceremonies, and awarding sessions—to just one person based on a single leader's decision. The reason he gave was that her hosting style was "more interesting." The moment I heard that, a fire flared up in my chest. He didn’t even let anyone else try! How could he just decide she was the funniest? Above all, everyone joins a club for personal growth. It was completely unfair to monopolize these roles without any discussion among the other officers. I was super angry. So, I made up an excuse that I had to go back home and could no longer organize the upcoming weekly meetings for the next two months. But before I walked away, I meticulously arranged the entire meeting schedule and distributed all my remaining tasks to three people. Then, I left. In reality, I didn’t move; I’m still in the city, but I’ve completely cut ties with them. For a while, I felt terrible about using that little trick because I hold myself to high moral standards—I hate being irresponsible or dishonest. During the first few weeks, I felt like I was being punished whenever I saw posts on social media saying that "a person worth cooperating with must be honest"... but sooner I walked out. The most valuable lesson I learned from this experience is to never let others decide whether you are interesting or worthy. Once we buy into their definitions, we lose our confidence and our chance to grow. The ultimate standard of judgment lies within our own hearts; we should never hand it over to anyone else. Next time I join an organization, I will clearly speak out about my expectations: I am here to grow, I need guidance, and I welcome constructive advice when I make mistakes—instead of just being ignored. Be clear about my own aim and be confident about myself. Your value is never defined by others.

I forgive myself for being so easily influenced by them and for telling that lie. It was just a stage for me to learn and grow. Before leaving, I hadn't felt truly happy for almost half a year, and I was on the verge of freaking out with absolutely no emotional support. I prepared everything in advance before taking my exit. If nobody else in that club cared about me, at least I should look after myself. I forgive myself for that lie.