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No idea how to make new friends

User Profile: crimsonGrapefruit459
crimsonGrapefruit459 February 20th, 2023

I feel lonely, though I probably shouldn't. I'm married, I do have a close bunch of friends, some of which I've known nearly 20 years. I just don't exactly know how to make new friends.


I recently started a new job around 4 months ago, I get along quite well with a number of my collegues, but none I would consider persuing more than just work friends. We just don't have too much in common, but we get along. I just don't really know how to meet people with similar interests, or to start up a conversation with them. It probably doesn't help that I can be quite quiet upon first interraction.




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User Profile: toughTiger6481
toughTiger6481 February 20th, 2023

@crimsonGrapefruit459

I too am very quiet and had this issue at one point in my life..... work friends are often just that but in all honesty friendship IMO should be about more then just shared interest or hobbies....

the most interesting / challenging friendship....... That provided me with the most growth as a person was a co-worker ..........that i saw NOTHING in common with when we met .........

i consider everyone i cross paths with to be either a lesson or a blessing and even the small act of someone has made me think and get understanding on things

if you want just similar interests ....... i am sure there are many clubs/ groups on apps like Meet up that do book clubs/ wine clubs / hiking clubs / cycling clubs but you have no idea who they are deeper then that shared interest.