Plz advice
I really need some support. However you deem what support is. I have been in numerous situations where I am blowing up peoples phones. And yes. Before you mention this part, I know it is a problem. I actually deleted my social media. Which was not easy. But I am genuinely looking for emotional support and it’s nowhere to be found. People walk out at your lowest points I realize. I can’t say what a few of mine are because I don’t want to get banned from this app. s - - - - - - a- - - - - is when I had no one. When my dad died, no one I’m sick of texting people and caring about them and their lives and just simply not getting it back. Sitting here hoping I do. And yeah I’m human of course I hope when I ask someone how they are and inquire that they care about me back.
I seriously do not have a good support system. When it came to acknowledging my phone blowing up problem I was called a stalker. Okay well why even bother bringing up things I wanna improve on? It’s literally throwing it in my face when I feel bad enough as is
And if people read me on read like my mom does I’ll blow their phone up knowing I am making it worse. I just want the responses to my questions. I also eliminated a friend out of my life because she stopped responding and she just smokes too much and I don’t want to be around it some other stuff happened but i also have come to a point where I’m not going to keep someone around to keep them around . I can’t keep doing this. Being ignored is bringing me back to bad times in relationships and not just romantic I’m talking friendships and family. My mom when I’ve explained how lonely I am and have no support she goes- I’m not here to hold your hand or keep you company. How sick? I have no one. No one texts me. Calls me one person. I am so sick with bronchitis and these thoughts are just god awful. Everything is happening all at once
Does anyone have suggestions to distract from the phone blowing up I’ve done writing and setting timers.
Does anytime know of any virtual peer support groups
Can someone just be there. Is there anyone out there.
@stopplayinwemriot
Of course, we need to look for the cause of the problem, not the symptom.
Thank you!! That’s why I’ve been transparent about my issues.
@stopplayinwemriot
Yes, you wrote very well. But what initially motivated you, what was your intention, when you started calling everyone?
it’s my fear of abandonment I think honestly. Just not hearing from people triggers me. Having plans and not being communicated with properly. Or like milestones in peoples lives. It’s so bothersome. I know people are busy. I know that we can only control our actions. Thank you for saying I wrote that well. And not judging me. I remember the first time it happened. I was in 9th grade. So 2006. And a guy turned his phone off on me and I was so worried about him I stayed up the entire night. My first boyfriend. I just have kind of not been the same since that when it comes to respecting people’s boundaries of the phone. It wasn’t a big significant thing that happened either with him. But before that I remember calling my mom at work any chance I could get as a kid. I just want to be rewired.
@stopplayinwemriot
You have a great awareness of the issue you want to solve and thusit is a huge probability ti solve it rihgt.
@stopplayinwemriot
Often it's our expectations of others that disappointment us. Not everyone has your values and won't treat you like you treat them. I know it's extremely frustrating.
Hi. I relate and am tired of automated conversations. Want to directly talk?
I do. Message me please whenever u can. Sorry I just saw this.
I’m very unfamiliar with this app just so you know lol
@gspey I'm sorry but members can't pm each other except for in a group chat setting. Feel free to join rooms like the Support Room at a common time. ❤️
Hey there! Im actually experience something similar (still do but less now) before. Im not sure there anyway to support you else that I lend you an ear. I got lucky and found a very precious friend of mine from doing that. I would also recommend using the app Sincerely, it helped me through tough time. Beside that though I would lend you my help too. Maybe we could become friends! I don’t mind you blow up my phone either if anything I appreciate the attention lol. I hope you are well.
I don’t know how to message you but I would love to talk to you too
@stopplayinwemriot@stopplayinwemriot I wouldn't say I could relate and understand what you are feeling right now because we people are different but I'm am willing to share an advice or an opinion. Honestly, Got the same family who doesn't give a s...t about sensitive topics, yknow. Those heart to heart? Nah, they're are cold and hard to understand on their own way of loving. I kept years of wanting, getting their attention, or try to heart to heart. But nah, they are like a stranger at those situation. I keep going on for years till I decided to stop trying. Why would I do it over and over again for something I don't know or haven't taste their love? Is it worth it to just let yourself get too much when you know deep inside it isn't. I know they're parents but....Everytime I look at them, I turn away before they could talk to me. Simple, I decided to be by myself and be happy. Lonely as it is but it hurts to feel like a black sheep in the family for being different.
@adaptableCity4665
I like you thoughts very much, thank you.
@RedOceanSun I thought no one would understand. Thank you. I honestly thought I might sound cold.
@adaptableCity4665
I suppose, the similiar experience is what make me like you thoughts, it happens without my conscious intentions I don't feel you sounding cold, i think i feel you sounding honest.
@RedOceanSun I guess we just have something in common where we don't want our life get stomp by people who don't like us.
@adaptableCity4665
Oh, yes, it is so, it is obvious, but the issue is much wider in my opinion. I or we want to find our own unique path, want to find ourselves and at the same time looking for someone who we really can trust among billions of others, цe are looking not only for those with whom we can talk to, but also for those with whom we can remain silent. Sounds clouing, but it is not in essence.
@RedOceanSun yeah it's hard to find someone who can really be there for us or to understand us. Makes my head explode for that since I decided to to just mind my own business and and be independent. It just hurt to let someone close again. It depends if I found someone who is ready to carry my weight of this shoulders of mine.
How is your bronchitis?
@stopplayinwemriot Hi! The truth is that I speak Spanish (although I understand English) I can hear you! We can talk and make friends, I like to listen to my friends and I usually respond often, I have a bit of a hard time writing in English but I can always use the translator The truth is that I speak Spanish (although I understand English) I can hear you! We can talk and make friends, I like to listen to my friends and I usually respond often, I have a hard time writing in English but I can always use the translator!
I also struggle with this. It's hard to not blow my person's phone up. It's all anxiety.
@Crazydudette
Yes, it is. But anxiety also comes from somwhere.
@stopplayinwemriot
Hello! I'm here! I've been where you've been. Sometimes we have to cut toxic people out of our lives. Do you have good boundaries? This is so important to protect your energy. I don't know why people read your text and don't reply. Quite honestly it drives me crazy too! Is there something that you enjoy doing to distract yourself? Focus on yourself, self care is essential and makes you feel grounded.
It turns out there are so many of us here who love to ring off the hook. :)
I wonder how many of us are willing to listen to others? :)
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Hi there... it's really good that you reached out. This is a good community that can help you. You can reach out to the supporters and listeners.
It's good to have you here
