Relationship problems I'm having and need advice
Me and my girlfriend have been together for around 2 years and we’ve been really close and in contact every day for most of that time. Recently we had an argument where I lost my temper and said things I really regret, and when she tried to talk to me about how she felt I shut it down and acted like I didn’t care because I was angry and hurt at the time. Since then communication between us has broken down and things have felt really uncertain.
At the moment we’re not really speaking properly, and I’ve been left unsure where I stand. I’ve found myself overthinking a lot and looking too much into small things like changes on social media, what she’s posting, and general activity. She’s changed her *** bio, started using *** and other apps again, and reposted things that make it feel like she’s moving forward in her own way, which has been hard for me to process. She also still has some things like *** location and certain connections still on, so it’s all felt very mixed and confusing for me.
I’ve also realised by looking back at our chats that I didn’t handle things well and I was quite cold and dismissive when she was trying to talk to me, and I think that played a part in how things got to this point. I regret that a lot and I wish I handled it differently.
Right now I’m waiting to see if she replies to a message my mate sent her, but I’m struggling with the uncertainty and not knowing what she’s thinking or feeling. I still care about her a lot and I don’t want anyone else, but I just don’t know what direction things are going in anymore.
I've woken up this morning and I haven't even gotten a snap from her
Is that bad?
I've read through mine and my girlfriends chats and I realise now how horrible I was at the time and when she tried talking to me about it I acted like I didn't care because I was angry and hurt and that's what pushed the situation into this and honestly now I'm worried she won't want to come back to me and I know you'll say something like I can find someone else but I don't want anyone else I want her and I know everyone says that but it's really true I don't want anyone else she's the only person I can see myself with and the woman I planned on marrying
She's got tik tok again (it made me uncomfortable before) and downloaded Inst agram when she told me she never wanted it
She's changed her tik tok bio from what it used to be too from "all I care about is cars, F1 and my boyfriend" to "🏎️🏎️"
She hasn't unadded me or blocked me on anything
She still has her location on for me too
And the same matching outfit on and on it still says engaged on her Face book
She also reposted a video saying "when you're the funny one in the relationship"
I tried calling her last night and she didn't answer either
@diplomaticPomegranate4162 Hello, that sounds really tough, honestly. It makes sense you’re overthinking when things suddenly feel different like this.
The fact that you can look back and realise how you acted + regret it shows you really care, and that matters. It just seems like she might be hurt and taking some space right now, which can feel confusing but doesn’t always mean it’s over.
Try not to read too much into social media stuff; it can mess with your head a lot. Just give her a bit of space and be there when she’s ready.
Also, don’t be too hard on yourself; you’re learning from it, and that counts. I’m here if you wanna talk more 🤍