Should i…
It has been exactly five months and ten days since I came to Denmark, and I still haven’t found a job.
Lately, I’ve started to understand something painful about people. What they think in their hearts and what they say out loud are often completely different. No matter how honestly I speak, people only hear what fits their own assumptions. They look at me and think I’m lying, even when I’m telling the truth.
I’ve seen people who work day and night, even doing jobs in black if that’s what it takes. But the moment they meet others, they swear to God that they haven’t found any work at all. And in front of us, they pretend to be unemployed.
I’ve told the truth so many times that I haven’t gotten any job yet but standing among people like that, it somehow feels like I’m the one being judged as a liar.
I came here with a dream. I told myself that no matter what it takes, no matter how much pain or struggle there is, I will work. I believed I was good at something. I believed I would build something for myself. But here, everything feels different almost upside down.
It feels like the only way to move forward is to be fake. To lie. To break trust. To flirt. To pretend. That’s how it seems people get opportunities.
And now I’m stuck in between.
Should I change who I am just to survive here?
Or should I stay true to myself, even if it means staying stuck?
@almostseen
Hi! To me, what it sounds like is that you are feeling a deep conflict between your character and your circumstances. When you are honest and hardworking, seeing pretense rewarded feels like a personal insult. It makes sense that you feel stuck and judged, but your commitment to the truth is a reflection of your strength, not a failure. The skills and value you brought with you haven't disappeared just because the environment feels upside down right now. Staying true to yourself is often the harder path, but it is the only one that keeps your dignity intact.
