Someone please help me.
I don't even know where to start...
Life has been so hard lately again, tho I don't even know why.
Every time my life gets a little better, I know that it doesn't last long and after it's gonna be even worse.
Lately, that is the case. I've been dealing with bad depression, anxiety, self harm and suicidal thoughts again, and it's not getting better... Even tho I have everything I could ever want I really feel my worst.
Another thing that has been really getting to me again lately is the grief over my best friend leaving me for no reason. It's been 6 months since that happened, but it still hurts like day 1. I don't know how to recover from it, I feel like I lost myself when she left me. I've tired everything to get over it, but nothing works. Every time I feel like it might get a little better I dream of her again and I feel as bad as before.
Also eating has been a big problem of mine, I am generally scared of gaining weight even tho I am already pretty underweight, and lately eating bad been getting really hard, not only mentally but physically too, it feels like I can't swallow the food and I feel very full after very little. I also feel my body slowly showing effects of being under nourished and I feel physically bad most of the time.
I can't even get help, my parents don't allow therapy and get very mad if I talk to them about how bad I feel, they really block it off.
It's been so hard to find the energy to keep going, I really don't know what to do...
Thanks for everyone that has been reading this and thanks for every advice any of you may give me. 🙏💗
Well Justnotleo you are a survivor, I bet everyone who reads this is rooting for you to get back to good..
The world can be a harsh master.. yet there is also much beauty too.
I will listen to this song 🎵 and remember you.
https://youtu.be/2X5Dr-uFVGw?si=J076VJ6xDCv1ONUa
Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
@Justnotleooo please stand up under the pressure! All is not lost yet.
I‘m trying, but it’s so very hard
@Justnotleooo
Hard things usually come with blessed rewards. If you win a hard fought battle, reward yourself. Your victory will make you more resilient and capable. Even losing a battle will teach you lessons if you allow them too.
Oh honey; my heart goes out to you. You remind me of me when I was younger. I dealt with self-harm, suicidal thoughts, depression, and an eating disorder too. Life at home with my parents felt suffocating; wanting to get help but not being able to because I didn't really have any control in life yet.
Just know, things get better. One day you'll be older, and able to break free from your parents. You'll be able to make money, pay for therapy, find friends (who aren't therapists necessarily; but talking to them can help); and treat yourself with kindness.
It can be so hard to carry on, when time feels like it's passing by slowly, but making it to a new day is still an achievement. And each day you survive is another day closer to freedom.
Im Sorry you went through this..
I really hope that one day I can get better, but I really don’t know how to continue, everything feels so hard… I know everyone always says „it gets better with time“ but I can’t really see that as it’s been so many years, I’m just so tired.
I'm sorry you're going through all this 💙
@AsherTree put it perfectly, you're a survivor 💙 we're all rooting for you
You got this 💙 feel free to reach out too if you need someone to talk to, I'm (or any other listener is) always ready to support you like that 💙
Thank you very much 💙
How does the whole listener thing work, by the way? I didn’t really understand it until now, so do you maybe know how it works?
Pretty much, you get to connect in a chat with a listener 💙 just should be able to connect to anyone from the chat page, or you can leave a specific listener like me a message and we can chat sometime
I am extremely sorry you are going through such a hard time, if you need to talk I am right here, everything will be alright, after darkness comes the sun 🌞
@Justnotleooo
really am sorry your going through this. can relate about parents not believing in getting help for mental stuff. went through stuff like you going through was hard but now in better place. life can get better as in time you be on your own. then you can get help not have to depend on parents. you can also get help with learning better coping still life is hard at times
i see you as a survivor and am proud of you for reaching out for help here on 7 cups. glad to have you with us at 7 cups.
we believe in you, one day at a time all any of us have getting through just that day can be hard. we here for you
@Justnotleooo Hello I am available from 8-9 tonight if you care to tell me your story
Buddy, ik how it feels and trust me when I say this, I've got few things that you can do to overcome whatever you're going through. Just see at me as a guide and I'll love to help you out. Last few weeks, this was me, the same as you're rn.
Anxiety: try the 5 4 3 2 1 rule. Name 5 things around you, name 4 things that you can/are touching, name 3 things that you're able to hear, name 2 things that you can smell, name one thing that you love so much.
Depression: try talking to your friends, or here if you feel more guarded. Don't try to fake your emotions, if you feel like crying then cry, if you ever once in a day feel happy then be happy, you don't have to hammer yourself with bad thoughts whenever once in a while you get to feel good (i guess you're getting what i mean🥲👉🏼👈🏼) and for yourself try sleeping a lil bit earlier than what you do and fix that time for sleeping and also wake up a lil bit earlier than regular. Sunlight really kills depression mark my words.
Self harm and suicidal thoughts: you're not living on this planet for any other human being. No one matters as much as you do. When you harm yourself you're just making other's feel more valued than yourself (like your best friend, or the random overthinkings you might be doing) and yeah this all may sound rude but I (a random person) don't want you to loose hopes and don't want you to die either. Also as i said earlier once you try waking up a lil bit early and take some sunshine, your mind will feel good. You won't have those thoughts mostly or mainly.
About your best friend: idk what's the real matter between you guys. But what I'll suggest is don't let people be your world. Be the world for yourself. It's in your hands that how you wanna feel, NO DUCKING PERSON IS ALLOWED TO RUIN YOUR MOOD!! If he/she does, then try to set more strong boundaries.
And the last thing is, just remember this is a phase, never try to take some serious harmful steps during such period. Not for anyone but for yourself.
And if you ever need help, reach out, we'll be here.
