When fam knows ur future (figured out??!)

Hey ppl…

​Whenever I come here I just think how we’re all trying every day, how tiring it all is n how much we must do to keep ourselves safe n at ease too like the happy moment in a day n not trying to fall into our own trap of problems we can’t influence.

Today, I would like to tell u (and if u can relate, always lmk!) abt “how family thinks n keeps u figured out”

Like whats even that??

Well, it happens when ur at home 24/7 or most of the time like me. N fam just starts their own presumptions n opinions on u.

Like the fact of how alone you’ll end up here one day n when I asked it won’t be fair or who will help me, they just said, u gotta pay someone. Tried to have some real convo abt it just out of curiosity but it got confirmed again. No, they don’t even think that I’ll eventually move out n break free from their chains of limitations to go love w my own freedom n authenticity. 

Or independence.

They think I’ll be here living w them forever n whilst realistically it’s the likely outcome in future, I still keep general hope w me. Cuz, nobody is less of anything they have or have not. We all deserve to live the way we want someday. No amount of condition or issues can make us feel incapable or diminish our ability or stuff yk…? Like for dreams… we want to chase n live them. 

Same w this.. they are always discouraging n many times said to my face that I won’t find anyone. They are more than convinced they know I’ll be in this home all my life n that’s to me. Nothing more, no traveling or experiences just their controlling nature cuz ur bird in a cage, don’t complain abt this. 

I feel it horrible. 

It’s not healthy nor normal am I right??

I would never tell anybody this.

U never know plus u have right to choose for yourself, u matter the same!

But no, for my fam, they just tell what once will be when I’ll be here alone n similar stuff… they don’t think of anything else … tho they once mentioned that “kind” person is found very hardly in life n nobody would wanted someone useless just made me feel the same.

They don’t want it for me nor they believe it will ever happen.

Good job at being such realistic, I’m too but at least don’t discourage us like that.

It’s already more than enough w other stuff. So no, I wish to I would eventually move out n leave them….

I still have some time ppl tho or years if we say for how long they will work, but once they retire I will loose privacy like for my own time n that’s something I don’t wanna happen either. Years ago I was just doing my stuff, keeping my things safe, thriving in alone time but as the time is going by n what they are saying it starts to feel more serious to the future.

If I wanna change it, I have to hope for the best, we all must. I’m not sure what hope it’s here anymore but somehow it can work or will work, no idea tho how but it’s no use to be discouraging like them, it only makes u feel powerless…