a question
We all have reasons for being on/in Cups-Land. For us members those reasons are almost always bad to horrible--the more you read in the forums & the more you hang out in the chat rooms, the more you know this truth. I am no exception. I got to thinking about it, & came to the following:
Are you here because you decided to join 7Cups, or are you here because your problems brought you here?
That is, did you make a choice or was it your fate to wind up on the site? Is human agency real or is it an illusion held by bipedal organisms influenced by environment & heredity?
I lean toward the 2nd answer, even though it feels like we make our own decisions. What do you think? Please explain your answer as best you can.
@slowdecline48
human agency, to a small but significant extent is real. You brought you here. Do not ever take that away from yourself. Asking or looking for help/support is a sign of strength. It takes sum fortitude to do this. There are those who will not end up here or any where. Taking initiative is a gift from yourself to yourself.
@SeekForgiveness730 That's a pleasant way to look at it...
I’m here because of my situation. No matter how hard I try with my wife things do not get better, they just get worse. I’ve been stuck in a loop for over 13 years but thank goodness I found this app where strangers actually care to listen and help.
I don’t believe, personally, that marriage was intended to be this toxic or that people in general were MADE like this. I believe they were influenced by a wicked, toxic air; and being that there’s more “bad” personalities than “good” those of us who choose to be good suffer 10x more.
