oops i forgot im elderly now so you cant get mad at me
That title is my dads' brand new life excuse.
Set aside the fact that i spent a life time of issues, when all else fails his excuses are, I forgot, I didn't know, what ever boundary that is set, he will find an excuse.
and then days later i get showered with i love you i love you i love you.
im finacially dependent on my father until i can sell the family home and get off him, ive also realized i have to rely heavily on my medication until i can move away from him.
i told him twice this past week to not bring up the passing of my favorite aunt, he decided to ignore that on two occasions, the last straw being today, when he found a loop hole, in that he was on speaker phone with my dad, and out of the corner of my eye i could see him looking at me as he tells my brother that my favorite aunts funeral ( mind you my favorite aunt, not my brothers my brother had zero interaction with our aunt or uncle ) is this Sat, which i cant attend cause it is out of state and i have no car, and that he bought flowers from the family to send,
just a nice jab at me, a whoops i forgot not to bring it up, a whoops i didnt know i couldnt tell your brother, whoops im old give me a break.
Why is it, when growing up as a child, say from 4-12 there are no whoops give me a break, nope, only punishments, time outs, and repercussions for talking back or being a kid, there is no whoops i didnt know i cant fight with other children or curse if i have a valid reason to, no sticking up for myself when i deem necessary, its just to bad im the parent that is it.
BUT im the jerk for setting boundaries now. im the *** for getting mad at an elderly person because he cant remember or feigns stupidity or who the f knows what.
I cant have any privacy for a solid week because if i do he will just show up because he was worried about me because i didnt answer the phone.
on an on an on an on
and all i can do is wait, and medicate.
least i got a lil high now, and its close enough to my bed time i can piddle around enough and try to calm down, go troll else where on the internet and hope i dont wake up in the AM
@TheBestScreenName
It's really hard for me to hear this.
It's upsetting that he treated you that way. Obviously he remembers a lot of things, and if a person cares he definitely remembers and knows a lot of things - why would he remember not to attack his boss? Why would he remember not to attack the police? It's like a lot of people using drunkenness as an excuse for things.
I'm sure you'll get out of this stifling environment eventually, and until then, there are a lot of people here who are supportive and accommodating.
