I ended up blocking him(possible bf once again) he said to me that...
He told me "you're worth less, you're a waste of time" after I blocked him everywhere and then he sent me that sms. That was the last thing that he had wrote me. El último portazo. I wrote something long to him about the limits I have set regarding intimate things related to having sex*** chat. I just want to think that in time he will regret having told me that since I have told him that I deal with my own things, things that have to do with mental health, thoughts that lead me to have low self-esteem and he said those things to me anyways...
Thing is all started when he said "youre complicated haha" I told him he was wrong I'm not I'm not the one whos *** all the time to get s*x*** and his response to me offended me I said to him that hurt me and it's not like I don't care about the other one as he told me "And what about what I feel?" Then I got anxious I was crying and shaking. It was all at night via a famous app.
Before that, he said he meant it in a funny way the "youre complicated" line but how? Like how would I know it was a joke like he says... Like you can't know It. There's no voice, no tone. I have put him some limits I don't want to get into topic but he said " it's like if you sended me something and youre eager for me to see it and I don't even open it..." He said more stuff. He also wanted for us to meet next day and go to a motel to have s*x*** he said I shouldn't lie(i didn't want to lie about it) that I could say we we're going to a spa session... but he would give me the spa session, I said Nono. And then he said the line youre complicated...
It's long to explain all. We have met in a theraphy sesiones with many other people. He was a really sweet guy with me I always felt he was always good with other girls. He was so into me... That at times it was so much for me.
He had a long travel to meet me when we were together. I remember one time he treated me bad via this app. He said something nasty about my brother and more things that were in a bad manner and that also stressed me. I didn't want to talk with him then, it was so close to my birthday and I was having oculogyric crisis a lot because of meds. Also he didn't reach out for me anyways... Then after some time he contacted me via other social media and well I ended up falling for him... I gave him a second chance.
I feel like there's no turning back he won't apologize once again... He said one time after hurting me he didn't want to hurt me and he did it past Sunday.
@LifelD239
You did the right thing blocking him.
He wasn't respectful.
Kind.
And he didn't consider your feelings or boundaries.
You are not there only for his amusement and to be manipulated.
When the time is right, you'll meet someone who knows how to be sincere, compassion and considerate 🩷🤗
I feel really down and my post is getting no support... I wish someones could tell me something more. I want to cry. I lost him...
@LifelD239
Well, in my opinion, you didn't lose him- he lost you. A man who treats you wrong is not the man for you, and is a man who is unaware of your worth. I'm sure you feel down but there will be another man for you, even though the feeling hurts. You will know when a man fully cares for you and wants to do right by you. I've had experiences with ppl who I care about who have done me wrong etc and crossed boundaries.
Maybe watch some movies, write about your feelings or write how you feel and throw it away, paint, whatever positive and graceful that you like to do. Trust yourself that you made the right decision to give you peace. Cry to let it out.. do not hold it in, but allow yourself to let it go :)
You got this :)
@communicativeCar962 thank you. I Still feel there's some fault on me because I didn't want him to touch himself while having sex*** chat or because I didn't see his picture. Once he said to me that he gave pleasure to himself thinking about me, this is just when we were together and he didn't know if he could tell me bc he felt I was going to feel disgusted or something. I was okay with it, with him having this act. Of course the relationship didn't revolve only with sex** it was more than that. He was really sweet and caring with me, I hope he regrets telling me that. Thing is I blocked him everywhere and don't think he'll change his mind about me...
@LifelD239
You are absolutely welcome. So is this about your limits and his wants? I'm trying to understand this. I've talked to a dude before who was caring and sweet as well, but sometimes their desire is stronger than their kindness than their commitment, etc.
Blocking him is okay. Can you explain what you mean by you think he won't change his mind on you?
Even though, I still believethat
My bad, I was typing something else
@communicativeCar962
Also, his actions speak way louder than his words. I've heard plenty of things before too :/
And Happy Belated Birthday if it passed :)
@communicativeCar962
Also, his actions speak way louder than his words. I've heard plenty of things before too :/
And Happy Belated Birthday if it passed :)
@communicativeCar962 like I feel that him saying I'm a waste of time I'm worthless was what he meant. I think he won't change his mind... It hurts me.
And yeah, I told him I felt uncomfortable with him doing those things. Wich he never did because I told him not to do it while having s*x chat. I mean he respected that.
@LifelD239
Men can be stubborn.. EVEN if he thinks about it and regrets it, he still may not apologize for it. You also have to realize in your heart that you are not worthless and you are not a waste of time. He wouldn't have spent all that time with you if he felt that way. And I seen you mentioned him adding to your low self esteem up above?
Maybe try building your self esteem through finding things you like to do, writing things you like about yourself, and talking good about yourself. This will help you when people make comments like that and you can tell yourself that you don't need them to apologize because you know yourself.
I know things do not happen overnight but it can be worked on :)
And that's good that he respected your boundaries, he should.
@LifelD239
You did the right thing by blocking him; he didn't respect you. You didn't lose him, but rather the other way around. You've freed yourself from a manipulative person. Although the process is very difficult now, you will manage to forget him and meet someone wonderful.
@natalia1034 but how is he manipulative?
@LifelD239
He is being manipulative by using your emotions against you to get his own way. He doesn't get to decide what's acceptable sexually, that's a joint decision, and I'm sorry you are hurting right now but someone who is caring puts in the effort in all areas of the relationship 🩷
