I need advice on addressing what feels like an impossible situation.
Context: I have severe c-ptsd among other diagnoses I have a long history of surviving many forms of abuse Leading to a complete breakdown after a particularly abusive relationship followed by losing my home & nearly everything I owned because my father who I was caring for stole all the money I had left so he could fly out of state to gamble & drink himself to death, literally. I am unfit for the workplace & I have no reliable family. But I have one trusted friend (closest thing I have to family) that took me in & has given me a room in exchange for care & cleaning service. I do almost all household tasks and cook daily for 6people & I have been doing so for about 2years now. Because I was given their guest room every time they have had a visitor I have been asked to sleep on the couch in the main area of the house, a request I'm more than happy&willing to oblige. I was recently asked to do so again for a the homeowners friend & her infant leaving an abusive situation. It was only supposed to be for a few days while she set up her own living arrangements. When a few weeks went by I remained understanding &tried to help her find support & assistance. But she was completely uninterested in any mention ofher independent living. Which I DO understand can be very intimidating, upsetting, or terrifying. She than seemed to use the pandemic shut downs as an excuse to avoid efforts further. Months later she is now comfortably moved into my room. Continued v
That is a really difficult situation. I'm sorry to hear you're going through such a hard time.
Obviously, I don't have any easy solutions. If there were any, I'm sure you would have thought of them yourself. That only leaves the less obvious far fetched stuff.
Maybe I can just brainstorm far fetched solutions and one of them could spark an idea:
- If this newcomer has a different place to sleep maybe you could take that spot.
- Maybe you could take turns on the couch?
- You once had a house. How did you get it? Did you have a job at one point?
- Could a social worker help you out if you contacted one and explain your situation? They probably know more about resources that you might have not considered.
- Maybe make a list of every person you have ever known and reach out for help?
- I once slept in a tent for 6 weeks when I didn't have a home. I treated it like camping even though it wasn't. Not a long term solution but it could give you a little peace and quiet every now and then.
That's all the less obvious ideas I can think of right now. I really hope your situation improves soon.