Lies & Deception
Why do i have trouble trusting people yet i give myself out freely? I am always doubting people's intentions yet i still allow myself to give pieces of myself away, knowing that they could very well use it against me, which has happened more times than i can count. People call me naive, and maybe I am, but seeing other people struggling hits me cuz i know what it's like to struggle through life. I just don't want others to hurt the way I've been hurt. Yet i just keep getting hurt. So when I talk to people on here, i can't actually see their face and expression so I'm a lot more closed off because I can't see their pain so i don't want to venture into my own pain because I have serious trust issues. Does that make sense to anybody?
@KnowNoLove
It does make sense. I hear what you’re saying. Even though you struggle to trust others, you nevertheless allow yourself to be vulnerable. I don’t think it’s being naïve. It seems you just want to see the best in others. Which I feel is completely understandable. Also, I get that not being able to see people’s facial expressions can make it difficult to talk comfortably. Written words can hide emotions, not accurately convey tone and just makes for a lack of many cues. 💜
@KnowNoLove
Of course buddy.. it makes a lot of sense.. a lot..
The way u put it all together just hit me so hard..
I too, have been living with the label "Naive" and "Gullible" stuck right on my forehead.. is it true? I really don't know.. maybe, I am..?
I have serious trust issues with people, but still, I feel like I just let people hurt me.. Does it make sense when I say that I have serious trust issues but still end up trusting someone and then regret it? 😐😐
The point is buddy, it makes a lot of sense.. you're not alone bud❤️❤️
Sending you lots and lots of love❤️❤️❤️
Arrow💜💜
@KnowNoLove
I totally relate to your comment about trust !
I am inviting you to the Sharing Circle chat room where you will meet and will receive
support from other members of 7Cups.com ! 😊
I have the same issue. I do it because I know what it is like to be wrongly judged and mistrusted when I have good intentions. I try not to make others feel that way, therefore, I am more open to them in case they really do mean well. This gets me in messes all of the time because sadly there are a lot of selfish people in the world that don't care if they hurt you or not. I don't think that you are naive... I think that you just care about others enough to take the risk.
@KnowNoLove
Like others have noted, you have a kind and empathic heart and you are a positive presence in this world. 💖 There will always be hurting people who will want to latch on to givers and take advantage of them.
Learning how to set and use boundaries might be helpful. I can see how your past hurts can lead you to empathize for others and potentially even over-identify with them. There's a great resource on boundaries on this website: https://www.7cups.com/boundaries/
Learning about boundaries has helped me tremendously. While I might empathize and want to support others, it is important for us to know what belongs to me and what belongs to them. Ultimately, only we are responsible for ourselves and only the other person is responsible for themselves.
Best of luck in your journey 🌸🌞
