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Should I restart university or give in to family pressure?

User Profile: diplomaticYard669
diplomaticYard669 June 19th, 2025

Hey, I’m 22 and from Pakistan. I dropped out of university back in 2023 during my 3rd semester of Software Engineering because of financial issues, but my family still thinks I graduated. For the past two years, I’ve been trying to do bug bounty and some online freelancing, but honestly, I haven’t been consistent — partly because I’m introverted and kind of lost confidence over time.

Now my family’s pressuring me to get married and join my brother’s small General store, which I really don’t want to do. It doesn’t align with anything I want, and I know I’ll just feel stuck.

I’m currently torn between three options:

  1. Try again and get into university (like NUST or Air Uni) — take a loan if needed, do part-time work, and rebuild my career from scratch.

  2. Skip university and go straight into an entry-level tech job while continuing bug bounty/freelancing on the side.

  3. Give in to family pressure, get married, and join the shop — basically settle, even though I know deep down it’ll crush me.

Thing is, the deadline to pay for the NUST test is literally tomorrow, and I don’t know if I should go for it or just let it go. Is it worth taking the risk and starting over, or am I just being unrealistic at this point?

Would appreciate any honest advice.

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User Profile: Aayla
Aayla June 19th, 2025
@diplomaticYard669 if you give in and do what your family wants, you'll always regret not taking a chance and following your dreams, and you might also resent your family for not allowing you to do so. 
You seem to be very realistic, trying to figure out options to support yourself financially as you study. Being realistic doesn't mean taking the easy route. It means being aware of risks and benefits, and you are.
If you give on your dreams now, you'll regret it forever. Think very carefully and imagine what your life will look like in 10, 20, 30 years. Having satisfied your family's expectations will be worth it in 30 years? Or will it be worth making sacrifices to do what you really wanted?
User Profile: Tigerishere
Tigerishere May 16th

Aslamu Alikum