Should I restart university or give in to family pressure?
Hey, I’m 22 and from Pakistan. I dropped out of university back in 2023 during my 3rd semester of Software Engineering because of financial issues, but my family still thinks I graduated. For the past two years, I’ve been trying to do bug bounty and some online freelancing, but honestly, I haven’t been consistent — partly because I’m introverted and kind of lost confidence over time.
Now my family’s pressuring me to get married and join my brother’s small General store, which I really don’t want to do. It doesn’t align with anything I want, and I know I’ll just feel stuck.
I’m currently torn between three options:
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Try again and get into university (like NUST or Air Uni) — take a loan if needed, do part-time work, and rebuild my career from scratch.
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Skip university and go straight into an entry-level tech job while continuing bug bounty/freelancing on the side.
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Give in to family pressure, get married, and join the shop — basically settle, even though I know deep down it’ll crush me.
Thing is, the deadline to pay for the NUST test is literally tomorrow, and I don’t know if I should go for it or just let it go. Is it worth taking the risk and starting over, or am I just being unrealistic at this point?
Would appreciate any honest advice.
Aslamu Alikum