Milestones or Steps Completed! Share and Celebrate Here :)
Congratulations! You made it to the next level on your growth path. Share with us the #1 thing you learned on this leg of your journey!
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I've learned there are people willing to listen and not criticize
@phenomenalwmnIam~ loving your thought.. know that we're here for you
I can do this.
@GutSavvy~ yes you can! know that we're here for you
never give up
@ine97~ loving your thought... so proud of you... know that we're here for you
I know I'm only on 10, but through these 10 stages... it made me realize what I'm thankful for, this whole time I've been missing out on what I was thankful for.
@UnknownBinaryMark~ step 10!! yay!!
so proud of you!
I've learned how to be okay to not be okay.
@jsnbrns me too
@jsnbrns~ so proud of you... know that we're here for you
I will make it through my first christmas away from home! only one more night!
@aquaClementine1773~ know that we're here for you
I learned how helpful it can be to meditate to stabilize your emotions and refresh your energy. I also learned there are some bad people out there.
@Shyandgentle34~ im glad the meditation is helping you... know that we're here for you
Starting to get my head under control and seize an opportunity to be more mindful about my life today. Step 10 reached!
@fishrgreat~ step 10! yay! so proud of you!
I'm starting to realise as time goes on that love is not, and should never be tied to, 'Look how much I did/how I made this perfect for you.'
The insidious thing is, when as a child you become a reflection of your abuser, they want you to make everything perfect for them so you do but what I'm realising is that I shouldn't tie love and approval to 'I made things perfect, please like me!' In fact, I shouldn't even seek approval because that's unhealthy in itself. I need to come to peace with the fact that I can try and fail and still be loved for who I am not what I can do for other people.
It's definitely hard, because when you've spent so long actually genuinely believing that 'getting everything done you've been asked to do' is a valid way to express love, you almost long to go back to a point where it was that simple. But I know that's not healthy and I'm glad I'm not that person any more. I'm glad that as times goes on I'm becoming more and more a real person and not just the perfect housekeeper that I think my mother really wanted. That really does make me feel good and I need to focus on that to get me through difficulty, because if nothing else, I own me now. No else does, and that's really empowering. :)
@helpfulShip6368~ im loving your thought... and so proud of you!! .. know that we're here for you
