Things People Who Are Demisexual Wish You Knew
If this is part of your life story, please share your insights! What would you like the rest of us to learn? What should we know about people in this community? How would you like people to interact with you? Should people ask questions? What’s the best way for people to learn about this? Do you have any resources (books, movies, YT videos, etc) that will give us greater understanding and empathy and kindness toward people who experience the same things you do?
If you’re not on this journey, we welcome you to listen, learn, and ask respectful, good-faith questions! Open-ended questions are highly encouraged, as they give people the space to share their unique experiences in their own words. While this is a safe space to learn about things you’ve never experienced, please remember to be sensitive, and avoid sharing harmful stereotypes or debating someone's lived reality. If you have a question, ask it with empathy. If someone gently corrects you, please be open to learning. Let's have a gentle, fun, friendly conversation where we support one another, because it takes all sorts to make a world!
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I’m adding a taglist to start, but this post is open to absolutely everyone! <3
@jesusredeemedme2425
thank you for tagging me 💗
I've never heard of this. Looking forward to learning more!
@jesusredeemedme2425
If I feel safe enough to share some deeply traumatic stuff with you it’s like learning the password to my bank account. The bond that is created by sharing the deepest emotionally wounded parts of yourself is like the first real step towards having a physical relationship with someone. It’s not about physical attraction, it’s about emotional intimacy. That’s the gold. That’s why it’s so important for a demisexual (like myself) to have discernment of what an emotionally safe person really acts like. Not just talks like but what does my partner/friend/person actually do. We also like to give as much as we like to receive, so if there is even a hint of unsafe emotional care, we are out of there.
For example, if I replay a memory for you from my emotional luggage and your response makes me feel seen, heard, and valued consider yourself on a fast track to a pinnacle. But if your response rubs against my shame, belittles the memory, or undervalues my experience, consider yourself in the gutter.
@jesusredeemedme2425 Looking forward to this thread ❤️🥰
