support UK trauma informed positivity ?
Hi
I am kind of newish here
and I am not sure if this is the right place
I was wondering if there was anybody who could recommend
someone who can support me
someone who is trauma informed and also who is gentle and help me with being more positive that is at all possible I've found a couple of lovely ladies but they aren't in the UK where I am so the time difference can be difficult and one is busy at the moment I am still thankful for them though
I am having what is serious panic and dizziness and its all too much I can't cope and feel so alone
even negative comments is too much to deal with and its not easy finding the right person this site and also keep searching is too much when you bad
I have found listeners to have their own problems I understand but I am coming here for support not to take on board theirs too
I need to find someone who is well obviously who can support me through
I am going through many positive change and its really difficult and bad to get there due to so much fear and panic
I am feeling desperate to be honest like so many here are and I am deeply sorry
also does anybody know if its possible to delete out posts on this site I can't find anything that shows this as I'd need to delete a few posts of mine maybe its not possible
thanks so much in advance
@Farrah17
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@23wangyaqi
excuse me but your comment is way too much
you should think before you post as you can trigger someone
I am learning to do things myself but we all need other people too
and things take time
I don't want to get in to a discussion so please can you just leave it alone now thank you
@23wangyaqi i appreciate the sentiment but let's not give advice henceforth as that is against our forum guidelines ❤️
@Farrah17 Hey :) I wish I knew someone to recommend for you but a good listener is pretty hard to find. Especially one that seems to really understand trauma and is open to the fact that everyone handles their trauma differently. It's not a one size fits all approach
No listener should be talking to you about their problems. That's not how its supposed to work. If they need support then they are supposed to log in under their member account
This is supposed to be a place of support and negative comments are not welcome. You can flag them and have them removed for unsupportive content. I think you can also have threads removes that way but i'm not 100% sure anymore. You could allways contact the leader of the community the thread is in and they should either be able to remove it for you or guide you to who can
Do you know any grounding methods? Deep breathing can help. There's 54321. 5 things you can see - 4 things you can touch - 3 things you can hear - 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste. Sometimes splashing You face with cold water can help too. It takes practice and what works one time - might not the next. Its ok - it takes some figuring out
You could make a comfort box and fill it with things that bring you comfort. A favorite scented candle - music - a soft blanket - even a stuffed animal
@mytwistedsoul
Thanks so much for your kindness understanding and suggestions
it means alot
take care
@Farrah17 You're welcome :)
I hope you take care too and I hope you find someone who can listen to you with kindness and understanding - you deserve it!
@Farrah17 A community mentor or a member leader, would be able to do that.
Delete a post.
@Happy900
thanks for letting me know
take care
This is a website where we can reach out for emotional support
not be told to basically rely just on yourself
I have a therapist already who is helping me with that
but everybody needs support too its normal
if you haven't got anything support to say please don't say it to me or anybody if its not what they are asking for
thank you
@Farrah17 If you want any posts deleted you can flag them and under additional details just ask for it to be deleted.
@AffyAvo
thanks so much
@Farrah17
Hey. So great you want to move forward positively.
I wasn't quite sure if you mean recommend a listener here, but there is a great website called 18u
I can't remember the web address, it's either 18u.org.uk or 18uonline.com although they mainly support under 18s, they don't push anyone away.
Not sure what trauma you have experienced, but they are for any type of abuse.
Hope you are doing okay. Sorry if I missed the point.
@CalmCoral
Hi
Thanks so much for your suggestion
I will look it up
I am trying to find anybody really who is in a healthy place that understands trauma and recovery and how scary it can be to support me along the way with listening and some positivity
I have found some but I'd like some in my same time zone too
Its been difficult finding good the right listeners and who have time
and behave properly
take care
@Farrah17
I feel you. These people heard me and same time zone.
I wish the best on your recovery journey.
@CalmCoral
That's great that you found what you wanted
thanks so much
take care
and talking to a psycholgist you might think helps
I just stoke to one and I feel worse they are here on this site
they showered hardly any understanding
told me to just come out of my fear its not real
while there is truth in it there are nicer kinder ways to say it
besides I was talking to them for them to listen and support not talk like that
I am having therapy that's my therapist job not hers
the feelings of fear are bad and she showed no understanding at all
and I've reported her
its terrible what goes on here and I am not the only person to say about not having a good listeners
please be careful about who you talk to everybody
take care
@Farrah17 if someone claims to be a psychologist and goes beyond active listening and supporting, they are not supposed to do that in their listener role. And yes I can see how that statement and the chat in general was invalidating your struggles. Thank you for reporting them, I hope it's looked into. ❤️
understanding kind comments mean so much to me
I go through frightening things
at the end of the day
anybody who isn't kind isn't worth our time
those who care will be gentle in your worse moments
thank you for those of you who have left hearts
it means so much to me also
I am thankful for the listeners I do have I wanted more but its not happened
I really want support with being more positive I try very hard but keeping it up isn't easy
I have to always keep busy focusing on things to do that involve being positive and I get tired as I am kind of like on a high, because of the panic and dizziness, I am not always to calmly just think positive really, I am afraid alot of the time, it all begun after a loss in the family and getting near to the end of my journey it will pass but its been going on a few months I in fact feel frightened and alone alot of the time, but this is life I guess.
thanks again everybody who has sent me Love hearts hugs and positive words not just here but in the chat too
take care
