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After my father passed

User Profile: communicativeWillow2965
communicativeWillow2965 August 26th, 2024

Hello,

I would love and appreciate some advice and taughts…


I lost my father suddenly in January. After his death I immediately flew to the Czech Republic and tried to put my own pain aside to be there for his wife. I stayed for a month, a week after I came back she went on holiday with friends of my father. She was terrified to fly for the first time without my father. (She came later because I was still with her.) I felt sorry for her and I wanted her to have a different environment after everything. While she was there she never responded and when we called she hung up quickly because my father's friends came back from an activity. A few weeks later she started to contact me less and less. We called again and I was happy to speak to her again. She told me that she hoped we could always be honest with each other and to keep the good bond we had built up over the years. Two days after that she was suddenly in Turkey and she said she was going there spontaneously, during that holiday she said she had a toothache... and she posted that she was at a clinic. I asked her if she was going to do her teeth because I knew she wanted to do it and she posted a story with a dental clinic in Turkey.. She told me she was having trouble with her teeth and didn’t want to do her teeth. A few days later she was back in Czech Republic and they posted on her story that she had done her veneers. I didn’t understand why she called me before and then lied about something like that? My father’s gravestone was being made and I was waiting until I could fly there to be there. A week before my flight she posted on her story: I’m going to bury my husband somewhere where no one can find him, bring my family down and tell very personal things that were not true and nobody’s business as far as *** was concerned. I was shocked and didn’t expect it from her. She had already told me before that she would pretend to bury my father with my grandmother but secretly put him somewhere else. After my father was put in my grandmother’s grave I wanted to take something of my father with me as a memory. She sold everything and the one thing I wanted she gave to her brother, a personal item that he had no emotional value for. I was hurt but she was the victim again. She told me lies about my family which I later found out when I tried to stand up for her. She lied to me from day 1, she didn't fly to Thailand alone after I left in February. She already had a boyfriend, why did she need me there if she had him and hadn't even forgotten me for half a year? Better to have your veniers done than bury your husband, you never deserved this daddy.

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User Profile: Kristynsmama
Kristynsmama August 30th, 2024

@communicativeWillow2965

im sorry for all you are going through.  I can’t personally understand your situation because I haven’t been through it.  But I can sympathize with losing your father.  The loss of a parent is a significant and difficult loss.  How are you feeling about losing your father?