Waiting for the loss
My great grandma is 96. she’s been declining health wise for a while, but a lot in the past few weeks. I hate saying this, but just waiting for it to happen is antagonizing. i’m watching my parents and my grandparents crumble with the weight of trying to help her, but it feels a battle not worth fighting. I know granny is ready to go because she’s told me before, and she wants to be with her husband. but with her in the hospital now it’s tearing apart her family. her children are fighting over who can take care of her better, and my mom has to hear about it all. it’s not fair for anyone, i just want it to be over. i know once she’s gone they’ll need to experience grief and all of that, but somehow that feels better than this. of course i would never want to lose someone like her because i love her so much, but i just want what’s best for her and the rest of us. i obviously cant say anything like this to anyone in my family because i’m sure it’s incredibly disrespectful, but i’m so tired.
@lolorye89
It’s difficult to face the death of a loved one, especially when it’s someone close in your family. However, it shouldn’t become a reason for conflict. As hard as the situation is, it may be best for her to leave the hospital and spend her final days at home with one of her children. That way, she can pass peacefully, surrounded by the people she loves.
Try to set aside, even for a moment, any sense of ego or the need to decide who should take care of her. What truly matters now is giving her comfort in the time she has left, appreciating the moments you’ve shared, wishing her a peaceful journey, and allowing her to go in peace.
Even if her body fades, her essence will remain in each of you through your lives, your memories, the lessons she gave you, and the moments you shared together. Every time you look in the mirror, a part of her will still be there.
Take this time to be with her, to talk to her, to hold her, and to say the things you want to say so that when she’s gone, nothing is left unsaid.
Sooner or later, we all die it’s part of life.
That’s why it’s important to appreciate every moment we still have, even when everything may seem gray, because once we’re gone, we would long even for those gray days.
