Why do I have to lie to myself to cry?
Giving a bit of context to my situation, I grew up in a household where we weren’t allowed to cry because we had to be “strong”. This has made me struggle immensely throughout my adulthood when it comes to expressing emotions and sadness. For the past few years, whenever I am going through a difficult time be it a loss of a loved one or a heart break, i have found myself creating a completely different scenario in my mind to allow myself to cry. For example; I am going through a difficult break up and I have not cried a single tear but the build up is just there and I can feel it. I know its inside me and I need to let all that emotion out. So in my mind I start to imagine a loved one in the hospital or hearing some sort of terrible news, all completely made up scenarios. And only then will I burst into tears.
i know these tears are coming from the underlying issue but I just cannot get them out being honest with my feelings. It makes me feel like something is wrong with me
@lazzare2020 I'm really sorry to hear that you've been struggling with this, but I appreciate you sharing your experiences with us. It's clear that the upbringing you mentioned has had a significant impact on how you approach and express your emotions. It's not uncommon for early experiences to shape our emotional responses.
In your case, it sounds like creating these scenarios in your mind has become a way for you to give yourself permission to cry. While this might not be the most straightforward approach, it's essential to recognize that you're trying to connect with your emotions in your own way, even though it might feel somewhat disconnected from the actual source of your feelings.
If you're open to suggestions, you might consider exploring techniques like journaling, mindfulness, or talking to a psychologist. These approaches can help you better understand and process your emotions in a healthier, more direct manner. They can also provide you with tools to navigate these complex feelings and gradually build a more authentic connection with your emotions.
Remember, there's nothing wrong with you, and it's okay to seek support and guidance as you work through this. Emotions are complex, and it's entirely normal to struggle with them at times. I hope you find a path that feels right for you. If you ever want to discuss this further or explore more ideas, I'm here to listen.
@lazzare2020 unfortunately I understand your pain😥 I can cry now, but only alone. Just remember crying is not a weekness, it's a strength. I hope you can learn to let your emotions out oneday ❤ gives you a hug ❤
@lazzare2020 I hear you that must be frustrating especially during those times where you're trying to release your emotions or you feel like you just need to cry. It's crazy how impact our upbringing can be, but with determination we can still change in the present. There's nothing wrong with you everyone is different <3
