Inner Compass vs Fear
I was offered a promotion a few years ago that would have meant more money and a fancier title, but something in my gut kept saying "no." On paper, it looked perfect. My boss was appreciative me and also wanted to see me climb the ladder.
But I knew this role would push me further down the road on a career path that I was already doubting. Deep down, I didn't want to be in that line work anymore. And the new role would also pull me away from the only parts of my work that I did enjoy - the mentoring, the creative problem-solving, the direct impact on people's lives. It would be all about managing budgets and sitting in meetings about meetings. I did accept the promotion - only for a while. Later, I felt so burntout and sick of the job that eventually, I left the department and switched my career.
This is what I think they mean by "inner compass", which is also mentioned in IDG framework - that deep knowing about what truly matters to you, beyond what looks good to others or what society says you should want. It's not always the loudest voice in your head, but it's usually the most persistent one.
The tricky part is that your inner compass isn't always pointing toward what's easy or what makes immediate sense. Sometimes it's pointing toward something that requires you to disappoint people or take risks or trust that things will work out even when you can't see how.
But here's what I've noticed: every time I've ignored that inner knowing, I've regretted it. And every time I've trusted it, even when it seemed scary, it's led me somewhere I needed to be.
So here are my questions for you:
1. What's a decision you made that didn't make sense to others but felt absolutely right to you? How did it turn out?
2. How do you distinguish between your inner compass and fear or other emotions that might be masquerading as intuition?
@peacestorm1115 great post. I think that while both fear and intuition can cause us some apprehension, it gets easier to differentiate them If you trace their consequences down to the end. Imagine taking a particular decision and seeing the scenario playing out: what is future you doing in it? If the answer is 'exactly the same as now', that's your fear talking. Our inner compass is rooting for us to achieve our highest potential, it wants us to be better and to strive for growth and change.
@DemiMondaine Thank you! A friend of mine also shared that she would ask herself two questions: 1) if I do this, what's the worst that could happen and can I accept that? 2) If I don't do this, what is the worst that could happen and can I accept that?
All these tools are great jumping off points. It still take practice though, for someone who doubts herself a lot 😂 But I'm learning and growing to trust myself.