Choosing animals over humans
I read something last year, or maybe earlier, that said: 'We never push away pets or animals but only humans when we are very low. The reason is that we feel they won’t judge us or maybe because they feel like a safe place.' To some extent, I feel this reflects the reality of our time.
I don’t personally feel this way, but I understand it. The world may not always seem like a good place—it’s a place where many people appear "bad." Still, I truly believe that nobody is inherently bad. Often, it’s just that people are selfish, or maybe overly selfish, as they try to protect themselves, their interests, or those they care about.
But then, there are people who genuinely care—people who offer their help with good intentions. Isn’t it a bit strange that, in our vulnerability, we often choose animals over humans? I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with that—animals are incredible companions, and I feel that too. But from the perspective of someone who genuinely wants to help, it might sting. They may wonder:Is that animal better than me?
This isn’t about saying one choice is right or wrong; it’s just something I’ve been reflecting on.
@searchingSoul01
I find animals are such a comfort to us, I regularly spend time with my dog when I'm feeling low as she reminds me that although she is part of my world, I'm the whole part of her world.
Saying this spending time with people is also important as there is such joy to be found in connecting with other people and spending time in connection and the moment with others can help us to grow, and to feel valued as well.
@searchingSoul01
I think you're absolutely right: animals feel like safe companions because their presence is free from evaluation. They don’t offer unsolicited advice, they don’t misinterpret our silences, and they don’t expect us to explain our pain. There’s something profoundly comforting about that kind of quiet, unconditional presence.
But I also feel the ache behind your words—the perspective of someone who genuinely wants to help but may not always be let in. That can be hard. It’s not that people don’t want human connection when they’re hurting—it’s often that they’re afraid of being misunderstood, dismissed, or judged, even unintentionally. Vulnerability with people can feel risky. Animals offer refuge without risk. You are valid!
@searchingSoul01
This really got to me. I’ve had a dog for years now , and the kind of comfort he gives me is something I’ve never quite found elsewhere. I think when people turn to animals, it’s not about choosing them over others it’s about feeling safe in a way that doesn’t need words or explanation. But I do get what you mean there are humans who care deeply too, and maybe we forget that sometimes.