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Society and it’s weight stigma

User Profile: placidSummer6314
placidSummer6314 January 9th, 2023

So basically for pretty much all my life Ive been on the overweight/obese side when it comes to weight. Ive learned to live with it but never truly felt comfortable. Ive never hated my body and truly loved myself, even tho I was aware that I had to lose weight for a healthy lifestyle to come. What I didnt love, was the reaction of others, no matter if strangers or close family members. In the past 7 months I went down from 145kg to 103kg. I feel much more energetic and do absolutely realize that losing that weight already made a big change and I fell in love with myself even more. My face and its details are finally popping up again and theres a sparkle in my eyes. I loved myself always, but naturally having lost weight I feel much more confident with myself and with going outside. I am proud of my achievements and am still going strong with a healthy lifestyle. What I have noticed tho, especially in the past 3 months, is the way strangers perceive me. It is as if I only now am being seen as a respected member of society and when I was overweight I would constantly get stares, gross ones. Now people have started approaching me while waiting at the bus stop and asking me things, actually treating me like a human being and openly interacting with me. I am aware of all the stigma that this society holds over weight. But I was never aware how much of a difference it truly makes on the way others, complete strangers, treat you. And even tho I enjoy being finally treated as a human being I am also shocked, embarrassed and disappointed by society as a whole. My personality hasnt changed a bit but when I was heavier people immediately crossed me off as some fatass that isnt even worth getting to know. Those prejudices are disgusting to me and deeply hurt me. Even tho I might be seen as a fellow human being now, so so many heavier people get treated almost as if they were zoo animals.

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User Profile: toughTiger6481
toughTiger6481 January 10th, 2023

@placidSummer6314

I am sorry you have gone through that ... as you experienced this first hand ....... what made you change your lifestyle and drop the weight?

i find that sometimes (not all the time) ........when people are heavier........ they shy away ......they hope not to be noticed and if they lost weight they no longer feel like staying in shadows ...... I know i did as a thinner person i am more visible but i know i hid before......so i blame me not how others were.

i find as i look around i am not always as nice as i could be as i understand being larger ...... but i always feel Sad to see young people who IMO cannot be happy ......... when they are very heavy......

i lost weight after 50 yr old...... it is hard work to change habits and requires better exercise and saying "no thank you....." more then i expected .............. if i can at my age............. i wish younger would find what works for them to be healthier and not risk long term health issues.

I may not give the best facial expressions because i wish i could speak up and let them see it can be done ..and encourage them to try even one more time........ because if successful and they stick with it .... they will not be sore and tired