Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #8) When you don't get the role you want
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Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?
I would react kindly and mention that there are limited roles and that I probably have some improvements to do.
What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Thank you for taking my application into consideration. Thank you for your feedback. I will take it into account and improve that what I have to improve before re-applying again.
@Ninziesss
A kind and lovely answer :)
@Ninziesss very nice and well said answer
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role.
Q: How should you respond? A: I would talk to the leader of the role that I applied for, and ask for some feedback and on what things I could improve so I could apply for the role when I improved on those things that the leader gave feedback on.
Q: What would you say to the leader who has informed you? A: I would say thank you for letting me know, and I would ask them how I could improve on the things that I did wrong in for example the exam that I took. I wouldn’t get sad as I understand that I might not be ready for it yet and that’s okay.
- Lena
@kenzolena
I like your approach. It was optimistic and a mature away to deal with the situational problem.
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would thank them for informing me of the results and ask for points for improvement if they had read or gone through my application form.
@blissfulForest7074 bravo 👏👏
@blissfulForest7074
That's a good approach 👍
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
If I wasn't given the role i wanted, then there must definitely be a reason behind it. I would inquire the leader for some feedback on how I can better myself and ask for any available places on the team.
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would first thank them for considering me for the position, and then respond in a friendly and professional manner and ask for feedback to improve.
@Helpingheart23 feedback is a great way to improve and get the role next time, I agree
@Helpingheart23 I like that you mentioned showing gratitude for being considered 😊 And showing interest in improving for that position or better
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I should accept and respect them first. but the thing is i never get disappointed , so easily I go for discussing it with my mentor and find out the problem like which area what i should be doing or vise versa and etc.. after it , i start again and work on myself to get the role next time ;)
@niceworldmnd I agree with you, really thoughtful response, good job 👏
@niceworldmnd
It's very admirable that you keep your composure and utilize having a Mentor to work towards improvements or opportunities that are a better fit 😌
@niceworldmnd
Such an amazing character. Nice to have you as my peer.
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would respond to it thoughtfully, take my time to calm down a little in order to move forward. I also may switch to my member account if I needed extra support or reach out to a peer supporter to talk about my emotions.
I would ask them for some input on what I can do next time in order to succeed. Also give them time as they might be busy.
@Here4good74
I like that you mentioned connecting into your Member account for support, that support is always there for us 💙
@Here4good74
Great answer and I'm happy to see that you have a growth mindset too!
@Here4good74
Switching to member account when needing the support is a courageous idea and knowing you’ll be understood and being heard in some way definitely helps without being obligated to act a certain way.
@Heather225
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
- My response to the Leader would be to inquire about feedback, ask what improvements I need to make as well as ask which other roles would the Leader suggest to me.
@SirenOfSerenity
You're always a sweet soul. Keep up the good work!
@SirenOfSerenity
Asking the leader what they think would be a good fit I’d smart in a way that you can figure out what you’re doing that affects how you’ll be accepted and what you need to do to be recognized for the role you want.
@SirenOfSerenity yes, asking for role suggestions to apply can be really good for us to explore our options and work on the feedback. Thank you for sharing siren!
@SirenOfSerenity
@SirenOfSerenity
I really like your words for this one. Sweet & simple!
@SirenOfSerenity
Yea asking on improvements is what I would do too!
@Heather225
Since this has happened to me, I can tell you that I was demotivated for a while. What I did was staying away from 7 Cups as a whole for a short time to get my thoughts together.
If this happens again, it is my responsibility to take this in civility, with a growth mindset and utilize this hurdle to jump even higher to wards my goals and aims. To the leader, I aim to receive as detailed a feedback as they can afford to give.
@KimByeongIn
It takes strength to have overcome not getting the role you applied for and adorable you did what you needed for yourself and facing this head strong.
@KimByeongIn
accepting feedback is a positive way will leave a good impression on the leaders who gave you feedback.
@Heather225
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I should respond by first stepping out of 7Cups so my initial feelings won’t affect what I’ll end up doing that may be unprofessional such as letting out that kind of problem to other people. When I feel calmer, I can look and think deeply about the feedback I’ve been given and see whether this aligns with what I really need to do. I could then reach out to a mentor to see how I can work on my feedback and trust I can get the role next time. I would say to the leader that had informed me thank you for letting me know what I can improve on and important information to be aware of.
@Mari228 True. Taking a break is something we can do to understand our feelings and then work on the feedback we are given. Connecting to a mentor can also be helpful in our journey of improving ourselves
@Mari228
great response and steps to take!
@Mari228 that is an amazing process you have <3
One of the ideal things I like a lot about our community is that when feedback is provided, it's always very encouraging. I can't stress enough how important that is especially since most would initially feel taken aback and perceive it as a failure, which it isn't! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
@Mari228
i like that you would thank the leader for informing you
@Mari228
i like that you would thank the leader for informing you
