Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #9) Passive-Aggressive Communication
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Healthy communication is key!
Questions:
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
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@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
The silent treatment, subtle insults, procrastinating on purpose, sabotage, and keeping score.
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
I have experienced people giving me the silent treatment multiple times. I would ask a question or try to talk to them, but they would continue to ignore me and then at the last minute they would say they didn't want to talk at the moment. I felt that was immature and hurtful because I thought I did something wrong.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
It makes people not want to be on the site anymore, or speak with some people. It might put them in a place where they are scared of a person, or scared to speak. They could develop trust issues with people. It will cause our community to break down, and it will cause a bunch of conflict between one another.
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
- Silent Treatment, Subtle Insults, Procrastinating on Purpose, Sabotage, Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
- Keeping Score
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
- Passive aggression is so damaging to our community because it hurts people and also in characteristic it is not something that builds a community on the contrary passive aggression could break a community by causing people to keep score against each other, sabotaging each other's work and not commmunicating well.
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
1. The silent treatment
2. Subtle insults
3. Procrastinating on Purpose
4. Sabotage
5. Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
I was a passive-aggressive person. It was sometimes intentional and sometimes not. I used to be passive-aggressive most times when I felt like I was not getting attention. But, I am glad I have grown to be more acceptable, honest, and straight-forward to people and myself too.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
1. It can cause misunderstanding which can lead to conflicts.
2. It can create a toxic and negative environment.
3. It can damage our supportive environment.
I would think by the time you are 30, you have experienced all of these. I've been on the receiving end of all of it
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
1.Silent Treatment
2. Subtle Insult
3. Procrastination (on purpose)
4. Sabotage
5. Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
When we were younger my siblings and I will get into an agrument and we will use the silent treatment, sabotage, keeping score, etc. on eachother until an apology or favor was given
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Passive-agression is very damagin tou our community because we rely on healthy communication to reach others and passive-agression can lead to negative feelings/emotions and wanting to leave the site.
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
1. The Silent Treatment
2. Subtle Insults
3. Procrastinating on Purpose
4. Sabotage
5. Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
The silent treatment. My boyfriends go to trick! Always happens after a big argument or disagreement.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
It creates an unhealthy atmosphere. one where people dont feel heard or safe.. Its manipulative and would cause issues with trust between leaders and members.
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
The silent treatment
Subtle insults
Procrastinating on Purpose
Sabotage
Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behaviour you have experienced in your life?
One example I have experienced of passive aggressive behaviour is getting the silent treatment.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
It is damaging because it does not help anyone, it just prolongs the issue that has caused it which is not helpful. If there is a problem then it should be addressed as soon as possible so that it can be delt with as soon as possible.
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
1. The Silent Treatment
2. Subtle Insults
3. Procrastinating on Purpose
4. Sabotage
5. Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
By far the most often one is "the silent treatment".
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Poor communication and bully-like behavior leads to a break down in communities where frustration and resentments take over.
@sunlightspirit
That is so true! Passive aggression can be very much like bullying and that is never okay! 
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
(1) The silent treatment, (2) Subtle insults, (3) Procrastinating on Purpose, (4) Sabotage, and (5) Keeping Score (Tit for Tat).
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
I have both been on the receiving and giving side of passive aggressive behavior. It is difficult when people won't speak directly about the emotions and problems they are experiencing and it is incredibly damaging to the relationship, no matter the style of relationship. It would be going against 7Cups culture and values.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Passive aggression is so damaging for our community because it is a form of dishonesty and unhealthy communication that is so vital to improving others lives and keeping with the 7Cups culture and values that it tries to uphold for the betterment of all people involved.
@warmLove3625
I agree on how you said and included everything in a brief way!
@warmLove3625 i appreciate your answer!
@warmLove3625 good answer!
@warmLove3625
It's so true that this goes against 7 Cups' culture and values, it also damages relationships unnecessarily.
@warmLove3625
I love how you organized your thoughts in such a structed way. Great post!
@warmLove3625
Great
@warmLove3625 I liked how you discussed how passive aggression is bad for a community such as 7 cups.
@warmLove3625
Nice response!
@warmLove3625
I totally agree passive agression is indeed unhealthy!
@warmLove3625
I agree, amazing answers!
@warmLove3625
Well said !
@warmLove3625
Great answer!
@Heather225
Forms of passive aggressive communication
1. The silent treatment: When a person stops talking to you to let you know there is still a problem.
2. The subtle insult: Causes confusion and underminds your/their confidence
3. Procratinating on purpose: They are showing that they are in control of the schedule and that you have no control over them
4. Sabotage: Deliberatly mess something up
5. Keeping score: Keeping track of favors and good deeds
My mother is very passive agressive and uses most of these tactics on my whole family
Passive agression fosters an enviroment of resentment and hurt feelings
@goldenFriend9335
I am sorry to hear your mother uses these tactics, I hope you are okay
@goldenFriend9335
I'm really sorry to hear that your mother uses those tactics
I really hope things get better for you
@goldenFriend9335 i liked this answer!
@goldenFriend9335
I really agree about the fact that you pointed out: passive agression hurts feelings and causes resentment. Thanks for the honest post.
@goldenFriend9335
Loved your brief but inclusive response!
