PL 101: Systems vs. Goals (Discussion 4)
Please note: In order to successfully complete Course 1, you must respond to this post. Your comment/response should answer the questions/shows that you completed the given activity (if any). Read the post carefully and follow the instructions given. Save your responses to a document that you can later refer to. You will need to copy/paste your response in the course evaluation form at the end of each course to show that you have done the work and to refresh your memory.
-
Hello Leadership Crew!
Welcome to our 4th discussion in this first course. In todays discussion, we will be talking about systems vs. goals.
To start, please read this post here  and watch this video.
The basic argument here is that having a system is better than having a goal. A system is a way of behaving that helps you move towards accomplishing something. A goal is usually and end state that happens after you have accomplished something. I think eating healthy is a good example. A goal might be to lose 10 pounds. In this case, you feel kind of bad about yourself until you hit that goal; and then, once you hit it, you kind of lose the purpose because the goal has been reached. If you relapse and gain wait again, then you fall back into feeling bad about yourself again. Contrast this with a system of eating healthy. A system might include things like: having a big glass of water prior to each meal; eating a lot of fruits, vegetables, and nuts; not eating after 9pm; and/or doing some level of intermittent fasting. You wouldnt integrate all of these new healthy eating behaviors at once. Instead, youd gradually introduce one and then another and then another over whatever period of time makes sense. The system enables you to continuously get healthier and healthier. You will eventually reach the goal, but itll be the byproduct of eating healthy.
Another example might be education. I dont really care all that much about grades for my kids. I mostly want them to learn and enjoy learning. We talk about what they learn, we draw things, they make their own educational videos, they explain things to me in their own words etc. I want them to have a system of learning and refining their perspective on things. If they have this system, then having good grades will be a natural result of enjoying learning.
This also has implications for 7 Cups as well. We might have goals of having a certain amount of group support messages or 1:1 messages. Those are fine goals to have, but we mostly want to create a system of support where people care for one another and then the natural result is an increased number of messages. Or, zooming back, think about this leadership development program. We could have an arbitrary goal of training a certain number of new leaders to serve our community; or we can co-create a system - this leadership development program - that helps people become leaders. The natural consequence of the program will be a higher number of trained, competent, and strong leaders that can better support our community. Â
What is a key system that you need to set up in your life to help you succeed? What are 3 behaviors you can implement to help you gradually grow that new system in your life?
After fulfilling the requirements of this post, please check out the next post here! You must take part in the brainstorming/activities given in all of these posts to successfully complete the program.
This post is brought to you by the Leadership Development Program Team, find out more information about the program here.
@GlenM
What is a key system that you need to set up in your life to help you succeed?
A key system I believe I need to set up in my life to help me succeed is to take a break and not wear myself out.
What are 3 behaviors you can implement to help you gradually grow that new system in your life?
1. Implementing a proper sleep schedule
2. Having a full day in a week all to myself to just relax and wind down.
3. Regularly Exercising and eating healthy in order to stat healthy physically and mentally.
@GlenM
What is a key system that you need to set up in your life to help you succeed?
The key system that I need in my life is to manage my time and energy according to the priorities that I have in my life
What are 3 behaviors you can implement to help you gradually grow that new system in your life?
Keeping a feedback or review system to improve and update my system
Learn more about the process and giving myself ample and realsitic timeline to invest in creating it, instead of a crushing deadline which would make me stressed
Communicating and setting healthy personal boundaries with the people around me
@GlenM
What is a key system that you need to set up in your life to help you succeed?
I think having a firm system in place as far as managing my different clients will help me manage my tasks more efficiently.
What are 3 behaviors you can implement to help you gradually grow that new system in your life?
1. Buy a timer and use it to help me break up my day and create systems that help me better serve my clients.
2. Set very strict boundaries as far as when and where my clients can contact me. By setting these boundaries, I have a better picture.
3. Forcing myself to take breaks. Playing games, indulging in movies and etc.
@GlenM
The system i want to set up for myself is to be proud of the progress that I am making.
1. never settle for less
2. value the work/feeling i am doing /having .
3. not to forget how far I've come.
@GlenM
What is a key system that you need to set up in your life to help you succeed?
A key system I need is one that helps me manage my time based on an effective schedule and be satisfied with the progress I've made.
What are 3 behaviors you can implement to help you gradually grow that new system in your life?
- celebrate successes through rewards
- set a good schedule that is flexible and serves its purpose
- set appropriate boundaries when needed
@GlenM
What is a key system that you need to set up in your life to help you succeed?
I think focusing more on healthy eating habits, instead of losing weight, this way keeping healthy is an important factor to succeed.
What are 3 behaviors you can implement to help you gradually grow that new system in your life?
commitment, consistency, and Continuation
@GlenM
What is a key system that you need to set up in your life to help you succeed? What are 3 behaviors you can implement to help you gradually grow that new system in your life?
- A quote I resonated most with the article provided was "The purpose of building systems is to continue playing the game. True long-term thinking is goal-less thinking. It’s not about any single accomplishment. It is about the cycle of endless refinement and continuous improvement." This is true for my own key system, endless refinement and continuous improvement in the way I maintain my health as well as the way I Coach and Counsel others who come to me for this support. Three behaviors I can implement to help gradually grow this new system in my life would be tapping into my top 3 strengths in everything I apply myself to, according to the Big Five test in the previous discussion: Open-mindedness, conscientious and extraversion.
@Glen M
+What is a key system that you need to set up in your life to help you succeed?
**I need a system that will help me stay fit and active as I mature in years.
+What are 3 behaviors you can implement to help you gradually grow that new system in your life?
**Behaviour 1: adding a reminder to my phone to measure my blood pressure once per month
**Behaviour 2: outdoor exercising by walking/ cycling to my car everyday; and doing yoga twice per week
**Behavior 3: indoor exercising at regular timed and mapped out intervals during a week on a matt or with weights at home or in a gym
@Strawberrymitts101 seems like a motivational system you could have. Good luck with that!!
@Strawberrymitts101
good luck on your journey.
@GlenM
What is a key system that you need to set up in your life to help you succeed? What are 3 behaviors you can implement to help you gradually grow that new system in your life?
The system I need to set up in my life and which I'd be implementing from right this second is to be a man of my word. I need to do what is right and in line with my principles. It's right, goals are not what makes winners, its the day-to-day life of everyone and how they work/act in this moment that matters.
The three behaviors that would help me would be:
- A clear mindset that I'm doing this for myself and this community.
- Stop any procrastination.
-
Be on my schedule
@GlenM
What is a key system that you need to set up in your life to help you succeed?
A key system I need to set up to help me succeed is self-care. Mainly because at this very moment I have a lot going for me like a decent full time, subbing, volunteering here, taking enough time for family and friends and my pets, taking my vitamins everyday, and working on exercising a bit twice a day and lots of water some tea. Seeing the article and video made me think of what I was taught in high school and college about growth mindset in learning our faults instead of fixating on weakness and enjoying the journey itself to the destination thid also is a good example of my situation where I’ve made goals to get a full time and I attained it and I’ve had goals go graduate school and I did and while I was happy at the moment I was still living my life afterwards and things didn’t feel as meaningful and felt like I was at an end Whereas practicing a system to cultivate and include skills like listening empathy has helped me continue things for a long time I also just realized too that instead of just focusing on just thinking I want to graduate with honors I looked around me instead and did programs and events here and there that kept me interested and helped a lot with graduating successfully while also keeping with me these unique experiences and courses I took
What are 3 behaviors you can implement to help you gradually grow that new system in your life?
Three behaviors I can implement to help me gradually grow the new system in my life are the following:
-Set aside 10-15 minutes to journal and read my past entries I read mine the other day and realized how it’s helped me see where I was and what it took to get me here and want to continue that even if I don’t always have the time
-learn an easy breathing or grounding technique that I can do whether at home or work whenever I worry or feel too drained from doing things that take a lot of energy.
-doing something creative or small course programs like this or if not than reading spiritual type books that help use my thoughts and imagination at least for myself in some way
@Mari228 Self-care is really important and it is one of the best ways to maintain our sanity. I really loved the idea about making a journal. Definitely would be helpful. Thank you for sharing that. Maybe I will work on that