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Pressure from family

User Profile: easyMoon8355
easyMoon8355 June 12th, 2021

I am still on my way to explore my identity , but so far ace is the best term I can find to describe myself. I have never been dating and can’t imagine having sex with someone, but I still want to have close relationship. What bothers me most is my family. My family is very traditional, my parents just can’t accept the fact that I am being different. They want me to get married and have child so I will be as normal as everyone and fulfill my destiny as a woman. I know my parents love me and want me to be taken care of, but I just not feel comfortable of entering into a relationship because I don’t want to have sex with partner which seems like an obligation in marriage. I don’t care about what others think of me, but I do really care about my parents’ thoughts, and I feel so depressed. We have arguments many times and it hurts my heart deeply every time. I am just so jealous when I see someone has an open-minded parent and would support who they are. I just don’t know how to deal with it with my family and feel lost right now. Anyone has similar experience here? Or any advice?

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User Profile: Reliablecucumber64
Reliablecucumber64 June 12th, 2021

I know it's hard to say 'forget about family' but they are very sexist and don't accept you for who you are at all, if they loved you enough they wouldn't fight with you about your sexuality (not saying they don't love you but it seems toxic) I understand if you don't want to leave them completely but if they still don't change I think you need distance.