im so confused
hey guys!
im new here and im not sure if this is the right place for me but im just so confused about my sexuality at this point that i really need help.
so i realized that i dont really feel attracted to anyone on a sexual level
at first i thought its because my libido is broken or im just weird but i read a lot about asexuality and feel a little bit more confident that i might be a grey-asexual
because i do sometimes feel the need to be romantically involved with someome..i want human connection, someone to talk to and share my feelings and hobbies with but im not really interested in any sexual activities
at the moment im in a long distance relationship with a boy (im a girl) and he is very sexually active
sometimes i do feel sexually attracted to him and want him to touch me but tbh most of the time im glad its a long distance relationship because i dont want/need sex as often as he does
i do want cuddles and kisses though so i thought maybe im a grey - asexual but this is all so new to me im just not sure
im prob. coming off as very weird but i hope someone can help me understand whats going on inside my head
i can like a person and i dont care about their gender or sexuality but about 95% of the time i dont feel sexually attracted to them
@ConfusedTrashMammal hey there and welcome to seven cups!!
it must have been a very confusing time for you while just trying to discover your sexuality and now being in relation with someone who's very active sexually, would make everyone identifying as demi/A/greysexual feel somehow grateful for being in a long distance relationship :") what you are saying is a complete definition to greysexual(panromantic), and i think that i'll be able to provide you with information about anything you want to understand better about any orientations or their types just reply here and i'll be answering as soon as possible!!
but remember if you still wouldn't identify yourself under these lables that's fine and reasonable, to be sexually defined is entirely up to you. Its in no one elses hands, and it is not an obligation. take care for now
@Listeningsarinn
thank you so so much for saying this! 😭 for the longest time i thought i was straight..im with that boy for almost 3 years now and in the beginning everything was "normal"
i know your sexuality can change and evolve over time but its still weird to me
my head is just filled with questions and doubt like "does this mean i can never have a relationship again?" or "how do i explain this to my family?" because im pretty sure if i tell them they will say stuff like "oh you just havent met the right person yet, does this mean you will never have sex?, you just dont know what it feels like yet im sure afterwards you will like it (because im a virgin)" and all of this is already in my head and im doubting myself so much
waah sorry im probably really annoying ^^'
i do want a relationship and someone who loves me and im sure from time to time i want to get more intimate with them so am i even asexual? what if i see someone and feel attracted to them does this mean im a fake? gosh im confused
@ConfusedTrashMammal you are not at all annoying for telling what's rushing in your mind!! i get your confusion, that's how i would also feel in your shoes... for the first thing, yep, you might someday find out that you feel like your sexuality has changed, you might someday be attracted to a specific person and etc, but this is litteraly normal, sexuality is something fluid, it can change trough time which doesn't make you to o do not beleive your feelings... it might feel so wierd and you might feel like things are never gonna be alright right now but it WILL be ok, you will find the person, who loves you and accepts you, being who you are ^-* 'cause love never stops &-& and about coming out to your family, this isn't something to rush on, wait until you feel ready to let them know, they might say things which will hurt you but they might also support you when they understand it completely, there is a quote which is well known between lgbtq+ members which says "does who really matter won't mind, and does who mind doesn't really matter"
@Listeningsarinn
thank you! i feel like i have to chase the answer and get this "done" as fast as possible but youre right..this is not something to rush on and i will take my time to find out and come to terms with myself
but i still have a question: does that mean im basically a 'panromantic greysexual'? thats a mouthful lol
@ConfusedTrashMammal yep that's what you described&-& yeah that's a long one XD "-" i'll be there if you wanted to ask or tell me anything, and feel free to update me on your decisions too &-& i'll reply here as afast as possible for me *hugs*
@Listeningsarinn
thank you very much :3 you really helped me a lot and im feeling way less confused now 💖
@ConfusedTrashMammal so nice to hear that *~*
